Do you think you should rely on a man?

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Do you think you should rely on a man?
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Mon, 09-09-2013 - 3:45pm

I thought the following article was a good read.  It conveys an important message that whatever you decide to do, be prepared to support yourself because you can't count on a man to be there to take care of you.   The author found herself divorced, her ex quit his job and she had a very hard time making ends meet: 

No matter what you do in life, whether you aspire to career greatness or whether you embrace motherhood and housekeeping with open arms, or whether you find yourself doing both of these things at the same time, do it well. Do it with everything you have, with all your heart and with great gusto. But do it wisely.

Don't ever make the same mistake I did and put your life in someone else's hands. And always, always, ALWAYS have a Plan B.

Tell your daughters and your granddaughters and all the other girls in your life this: It's OK to fall in love and have babies and be the homemaker. It's also OK to go to law school or business school or medical school or to beauty school or trade school. In fact, it's more than OK if you want to do BOTH. Better than OK... it's the smart thing to do. Tell our girls that they really can have it all, but ALL on their terms.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-ball/mama-dont-let-your-babies_grow-up-to-be-housewives_b_3773133.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

This is something I feel very strongly about, you never know what life has in store for you so you should be prepared.  

What do you think of her advice? 

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:36am

You know, PKA, seeing that list of insults that TanChick had piled up on me today makes it all the more funny that she's acting all hurt because she thinks I insulted her, even after I explained I didn't mean to and apologized several times if she felt insulted by my comments. I feel like I just fell down a rabbit hole or something. Nothing is making sense here.

For the 3rd or 4th time, I am NOT insulted. I know your intentions WERE to insult me though. 

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:37am

That's b/c you're a social butterfly.  ;)  Some others just call themselves that...

I guess lol. I don't see the hassle of getting together with friends. It doesn't have to be exhausting or expensive. Just some food, drinks and a lot of fun.

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:39am

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You know, PKA, seeing that list of insults that TanChick had piled up on me today makes it all the more funny that she's acting all hurt because she thinks I insulted her, even after I explained I didn't mean to and apologized several times if she felt insulted by my comments. I feel like I just fell down a rabbit hole or something. Nothing is making sense here.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">For the 3rd or 4th time, I am NOT insulted. I know your intentions WERE to insult me though. </span></strong></p>

Did you read your own words before posting?

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:40am

We don't watch sports or play poker or pool. We prefer parties of four couples or so to larger gatherings. We are not into potlucks. We go to them from time to time, but do prefer dinner out or a dinner party to a potluck, usually. We do have a few friends that we throw what I would call more "cooperative parties" than potlucks. I will so the sides and dessert and the other couple, who gave a smoker, will so the meat.

Didn't you just say you are going to a pot luck tonight? lololol

I wouldn't consider what we do as "pot lucks" either. Everyone just brings something. Be it an appetizer, a side dish, a main meal, a bottle of alcohol, wine, beer, etc. We do go out for "happy hour" as we call it. Usually it is for drinks but most of us get full dinners or just a bunch of appetizers. Nothing expensive. Our goal is mainly to get together and just have a ton of fun.

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:41am

That's great Savcal. At times like you have mentioned, I go on my phone and socialize lol. 

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:42am

I'm not ignoring your question, I'm waiting for you to answer why you assumed that I was ignoring people to read my kindle.  

Where did you ask this? Please post.

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:46am

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p>That's great Savcal. At times like you have mentioned, I go on my phone and socialize lol. </p>

Instead of face-to-face communication?  EGADS!

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:48am

Instead of face-to-face communication?  EGADS!

That is before I speak to them face to face as I will most likely have that type of communication with at least one person that day. I like to check the internet when I have chunks of time like that so I can check my email, home or work, check out my facebook, etc. Many times I need to find out things for later in the day.

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:53am

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">That's b/c you're a social butterfly.  ;)  Some others just call themselves that...</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I guess lol. I don't see the hassle of getting together with friends. It doesn't have to be exhausting or expensive. Just some food, drinks and a lot of fun.</span></strong></p>

I think it can be a hassle, it can be exhausting and it can be expensive.  It totally depends on the family schedule.

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:54am

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Instead of face-to-face communication?  EGADS!</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">That is before I speak to them face to face as I will most likely have that type of communication with at least one person that day. I like to check the internet when I have chunks of time like that so I can check my email, home or work, check out my facebook, etc. Many times I need to find out things for later in the day.</span></strong></p>

So why the shock and disdain at PKA reading her Kindle and not talking to people?  When you're playing on the internet and not talking to people?

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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