Do you think you should rely on a man?

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Do you think you should rely on a man?
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Mon, 09-09-2013 - 3:45pm

I thought the following article was a good read.  It conveys an important message that whatever you decide to do, be prepared to support yourself because you can't count on a man to be there to take care of you.   The author found herself divorced, her ex quit his job and she had a very hard time making ends meet: 

No matter what you do in life, whether you aspire to career greatness or whether you embrace motherhood and housekeeping with open arms, or whether you find yourself doing both of these things at the same time, do it well. Do it with everything you have, with all your heart and with great gusto. But do it wisely.

Don't ever make the same mistake I did and put your life in someone else's hands. And always, always, ALWAYS have a Plan B.

Tell your daughters and your granddaughters and all the other girls in your life this: It's OK to fall in love and have babies and be the homemaker. It's also OK to go to law school or business school or medical school or to beauty school or trade school. In fact, it's more than OK if you want to do BOTH. Better than OK... it's the smart thing to do. Tell our girls that they really can have it all, but ALL on their terms.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-ball/mama-dont-let-your-babies_grow-up-to-be-housewives_b_3773133.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

This is something I feel very strongly about, you never know what life has in store for you so you should be prepared.  

What do you think of her advice? 

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:56am

I think it can be a hassle, it can be exhausting and it can be expensive.  It totally depends on the family schedule.

How is it exhausting and expensive depending on the family schedule? 

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:56am

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p>That's great Savcal. At times like you have mentioned, I go on my phone and socialize lol. </p>

WHAT?  Communication with friends over the internet and not face to face.  SHOCKING!  Gotta love the irony first thing in the morning.  LoL

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:57am

So why the shock and disdain at PKA reading her Kindle and not talking to people?  When you're playing on the internet and not talking to people?

I was speaking of the situations YOU presented. Unless something comes up and total strangers are speaking to one another, then, yes, I would be doing something on my own like the internet or a magazine in the waiting room. If I was someplace that I knew the other people, no, I would not be doing that, I would be speaking to them.

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 9:57am

WHAT?  Communication with friends over the internet and not face to face.  SHOCKING!  Gotta love the irony first thing in the morning.  LoL

Keep reading......

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 10:03am

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">tanchick2013</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Instead of face-to-face communication?  EGADS!&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;That is before I speak to them face to face as I will most likely have that type of communication with at least one person that day. I like to check the internet when I have chunks of time like that so I can check my email, home or work, check out my facebook, etc. Many times I need to find out things for later in the day.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>So why the shock and disdain at PKA reading her Kindle and not talking to people?  When you're playing on the internet and not talking to people?</p>

....and assumption that I'm not talking to people.  Do people not know that a kindle can also include; email, facebook, twitter, the internet, games and so forth as well as.....books?  

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 10:09am

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I think it can be a hassle, it can be exhausting and it can be expensive.  It totally depends on the family schedule.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">How is it exhausting and expensive depending on the family schedule? </span></strong></p>

Some families are busy within their own family and have limited funds.  Do you not understand families that have different dynamics than your own?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 10:10am

....and assumption that I'm not talking to people.  

Assumption because you did not ask my question that I asked over and over.

Do people not know that a kindle can also include; email, facebook, twitter, the internet, games and so forth as well as.....books?  

I am just going by what you posted:   I read all the time, always carry a book....well, my kindle now.  I have found that if something is important to me than I find a way.

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 10:11am

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I'm not ignoring your question, I'm waiting for you to answer why you assumed that I was ignoring people to read my kindle.  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Where did you ask this? Please post.</span></strong></p>

Consider this proof positive that you don't read the posts.  Change the posts to 50 per page and go to page 14 to see the question not only in my posts, but quoted in yours.  It's pretty clear that you didn't bother to read the posts.  Wink

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 10:12am

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">WHAT?  Communication with friends over the internet and not face to face.  SHOCKING!  Gotta love the irony first thing in the morning.  LoL</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Keep reading......</span></span></strong></p>

I did, que the double standard.  Wink

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 10:13am

Some families are busy within their own family and have limited funds.  Do you not understand families that have different dynamics than your own?

Umm...again, yes, I do understand, very well. As friends we talk about things like this and this is when we all help out. The point is to get together and have fun and socialize. We don't stop doing that because of limited funds. We try and accomodate everyone's schedules too. Tomorrow my son has a bday party. We are still going to the BBQ. We always find a way as well as does my other friends. Sometimes you HAVE to skip a party because it is just not feasible. Otherwise, you come later on. Again, the point is just to get together.

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