Do you think you should rely on a man?
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| Mon, 09-09-2013 - 3:45pm |
I thought the following article was a good read. It conveys an important message that whatever you decide to do, be prepared to support yourself because you can't count on a man to be there to take care of you. The author found herself divorced, her ex quit his job and she had a very hard time making ends meet:
No matter what you do in life, whether you aspire to career greatness or whether you embrace motherhood and housekeeping with open arms, or whether you find yourself doing both of these things at the same time, do it well. Do it with everything you have, with all your heart and with great gusto. But do it wisely.
Don't ever make the same mistake I did and put your life in someone else's hands. And always, always, ALWAYS have a Plan B.
Tell your daughters and your granddaughters and all the other girls in your life this: It's OK to fall in love and have babies and be the homemaker. It's also OK to go to law school or business school or medical school or to beauty school or trade school. In fact, it's more than OK if you want to do BOTH. Better than OK... it's the smart thing to do. Tell our girls that they really can have it all, but ALL on their terms.
This is something I feel very strongly about, you never know what life has in store for you so you should be prepared.
What do you think of her advice?


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Again: Change the posts to 50 per page and go to page 14 to see the question not only in my posts, but quoted in yours. It's pretty clear that you didn't bother to read the posts.
If you know where it is, why can't you post it?
<<Because again, it CAN be doable. I guess it just is not that important to some to get together with good friends. >>
Well yea, but nobody said it wasn't doable and no it's not about importance and if you truly understood differences you would know that already. By telling posters that you are "sorry" about differences and continuing to ignore explanations of why something can be done clealry shows a lack of understanding in the differences in family dynamics.
It can be exhausting and expensive and nothing you have said counters that, because it can be exhausting and expensive. Stop ignoring the differences in families and people.
Can you please explain and give examples and WITHOUT using the word differences. Thanks.
I have never sat at a game with my nose in a book to people I see every week, ever.
So where are YOUR examples then?
It totally depends on the family schedule.
Dingdingdingdingding!!!!!!!!!
That's it, exactly. In my case, I have a greater-than-full-time job. My son is out of school (thank goodness!) but now needs help with things that are related to his business, sometimes including transportation. I have several chronic health conditions. I have a relationship to maintain (which may or may not count as social time). On top of all that, I listen to people talk all day long at work and then my kid chatters like a monkey when I'm home. On the rare times that I have free time, I'm already exhausted and usually need quiet time. Adding more than a few hours of social time to that per month would be a huge drain for me.
I told you where they were, you know where they are, just go and read them. If you truly wanted to answer them you would have done so by now since you have copied them in at least two posts, you know where they are...this is just more run around on your part. If you want to see them, change the posts to 50 per page and go to page 14 already. LOL
PumpkinAngel
You were given examples earlier in the thread, why did you not read them? It's interesting when someone who claims to have knowledge on a subject, acts as if they don't understand even when presented with examples and continues to sure a clear lack of understanding.
This is not rocket science, it's really, really simple. Someone is to tired after working all day to go out and their budget does not allow any extra expenses. That's the basic simple answer.
PumpkinAngel
I haven't given any because I'm still waiting for you to answer why you assumed that people were being ignored. Save gave some examples, were those not good enough for you?
PumpkinAngel
Family dynamics can vary vastly as can people so while it may be energizing for some people, it can be exhasuting for others. Budgets vary widely as well. I'm not sure why this is so complex to understand.
PumpkinAngel
I would prefer five friends whom I can trust for their honesty than have fifty who nod along like morons and shriek, "I KNEW THIS WAS GOING TO HAPPEN" when the chips are down.
I prefer to have meaningful friendships like that. JMO.
I told you where they were, you know where they are, just go and read them. If you truly wanted to answer them you would have done so by now since you have copied them in at least two posts, you know where they are...this is just more run around on your part. If you want to see them, change the posts to 50 per page and go to page 14 already. LOL
Why can't you just post it? I don't get it.
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