Do you think you should rely on a man?

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Do you think you should rely on a man?
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Mon, 09-09-2013 - 3:45pm

I thought the following article was a good read.  It conveys an important message that whatever you decide to do, be prepared to support yourself because you can't count on a man to be there to take care of you.   The author found herself divorced, her ex quit his job and she had a very hard time making ends meet: 

No matter what you do in life, whether you aspire to career greatness or whether you embrace motherhood and housekeeping with open arms, or whether you find yourself doing both of these things at the same time, do it well. Do it with everything you have, with all your heart and with great gusto. But do it wisely.

Don't ever make the same mistake I did and put your life in someone else's hands. And always, always, ALWAYS have a Plan B.

Tell your daughters and your granddaughters and all the other girls in your life this: It's OK to fall in love and have babies and be the homemaker. It's also OK to go to law school or business school or medical school or to beauty school or trade school. In fact, it's more than OK if you want to do BOTH. Better than OK... it's the smart thing to do. Tell our girls that they really can have it all, but ALL on their terms.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-ball/mama-dont-let-your-babies_grow-up-to-be-housewives_b_3773133.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

This is something I feel very strongly about, you never know what life has in store for you so you should be prepared.  

What do you think of her advice? 

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 1:14pm

You were given examples earlier in the thread, why did you not read them?  It's interesting when someone who claims to have knowledge on a subject, acts as if they don't understand even when presented with examples and continues to sure a clear lack of understanding.

This is not rocket science, it's really, really simple.  Someone is to tired after working all day to go out and their budget does not allow any extra expenses.  That's the basic simple answer.

So you only consider socializing to be after work?

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 1:16pm

I haven't given any because I'm still waiting for you to answer why you assumed that people were being ignored.  Save gave some examples, were those not good enough for you?

Can't give you MY answer until YOU answer my question. It is quite obvious that you don't want to because you KNOW that is where you READ BOOKS on your kindle. It's really ok that you are not social and don't want to talk to people. Why not just say that then. Are you embarassed?

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 1:17pm

I would prefer five friends whom I can trust for their honesty than have fifty who nod along like morons and shriek, "I KNEW THIS WAS GOING TO HAPPEN" when the chips are down.

I prefer to have meaningful friendships like that. JMO.

So sorry to hear about the limited amount of friends you have. Are they all from online too?

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 1:31pm

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I would prefer five friends whom I can trust for their honesty than have fifty who nod along like morons and shriek, "I KNEW THIS WAS GOING TO HAPPEN" when the chips are down.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I prefer to have meaningful friendships like that. JMO.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>So sorry to hear about the limited amount of friends you have. Are they all from online too?</strong></p>

Again, what is there to feel sorry for?  If that's the way the poster prefers it (and that's what she [I assume] clearly says) then that's something to be happy about...not sorry.  


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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 1:33pm

Not wanting to always be talking to someone is not non-social.  


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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 1:40pm

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I told you where they were, you know where they are, just go and read them.  If you truly wanted to answer them you would have done so by now since you have copied them in at least two posts, you know where they are...this is just more run around on your part.  If you want to see them, change the posts to 50 per page and go to page 14 already. LOL</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why can't you just post it? I don't get it.</span></strong></p>

You dont get how to change the number of posts per page and then go to page 14 to see the posts that you haven't read but have quoted numerous times?  

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 1:42pm

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You were given examples earlier in the thread, why did you not read them?  It's interesting when someone who claims to have knowledge on a subject, acts as if they don't understand even when presented with examples and continues to sure a clear lack of understanding.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">This is not rocket science, it's really, really simple.  Someone is to tired after working all day to go out and their budget does not allow any extra expenses.  That's the basic simple answer.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>So you only consider socializing to be after work?</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"></p>

No, that is not what that post says at all.  

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 1:43pm

You dont get how to change the number of posts per page and then go to page 14 to see the posts that you haven't read but have quoted numerous times?  

Oh well......carry on I guess....

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 1:44pm

Someone is to tired after working all day to go out and their budget does not allow any extra expenses.  That's the basic simple answer.

So you only consider socializing to be after work?

No, that is not what that post says at all.  

So why say anything about being tired after working all day?

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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 1:45pm

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I haven't given any because I'm still waiting for you to answer why you assumed that people were being ignored.  Save gave some examples, were those not good enough for you?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Can't give you MY answer until YOU answer my question. It is quite obvious that you don't want to because you KNOW that is where you READ BOOKS on your kindle. It's really ok that you are not social and don't want to talk to people. Why not just say that then. Are you embarassed?</span></strong></p>

You assumed that I was ignoring people before you bothered to ask me where I read my kindle and you don't have any basis for that assumption anymore than you have for the ones you just made.  I have no idea why you are continuing to make up things, this is becoming quite a habit.  

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