Do you think you should rely on a man?
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| Mon, 09-09-2013 - 3:45pm |
I thought the following article was a good read. It conveys an important message that whatever you decide to do, be prepared to support yourself because you can't count on a man to be there to take care of you. The author found herself divorced, her ex quit his job and she had a very hard time making ends meet:
No matter what you do in life, whether you aspire to career greatness or whether you embrace motherhood and housekeeping with open arms, or whether you find yourself doing both of these things at the same time, do it well. Do it with everything you have, with all your heart and with great gusto. But do it wisely.
Don't ever make the same mistake I did and put your life in someone else's hands. And always, always, ALWAYS have a Plan B.
Tell your daughters and your granddaughters and all the other girls in your life this: It's OK to fall in love and have babies and be the homemaker. It's also OK to go to law school or business school or medical school or to beauty school or trade school. In fact, it's more than OK if you want to do BOTH. Better than OK... it's the smart thing to do. Tell our girls that they really can have it all, but ALL on their terms.
This is something I feel very strongly about, you never know what life has in store for you so you should be prepared.
What do you think of her advice?


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Again, I know I'm repeating myself but it doesn't seem to be sinking in here...not everyone is you, not everyone has the same type of job with the same type of hours...so wait for it.....their feelings about the situation may be different. Their reaction to having some drinks and etc...wait for it.....may be different.
Of course there are more examples but since you can't get past the point that people are different, what's the point? It's clear that you don't want to see this situation any differently than your own little world, which is fine...but it is a very limited view.
So no other examples? And yes, I am aware of people's schedules, their line of work, etc. It is amazing how you find all of these "problems" of socializing but since all of my friends are able to do it many times over, it doesn't seem so difficult for people who are all different and have different circumstances to be able to do it.
Edited to add: Sav called you on the assumption before asking too....
Not true, not at all. I said I take my kindle everywhere, you said I can't imagine ignoring people for a kindle, I asked why you were assuming such a crazy thing and then you finally asked...where do you use your kindle. You assumed first, just like you did a few posts ago. You also assumed that I ignored people at games and that I'm not a social person all because I am reading...all fictional tales created by tanchick2013.
PumpkinAngel
So WHEN do you use your kindle PKA? Will you at least answer that without twisting and repeating words. Thanks.
In that case, why did you ask, "So you only consider socializing to be after work?"
I personally have very limited time and energy to go out after work. It happens - probably once every 2 weeks or so - but isn't frequent. Most of my "socializing" happens on the weekend. Luckily, the friends with whom I socialize understand that ... and we accomodate each to the best of our abilities.
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In that case, why did you ask, "So you only consider socializing to be after work?"
PKA was speaking about being tired from working all day and THEN going out with friends. Not sure where you turned that into socializing AT work.
Of course there are other examples, I just said there were and multiple posters have given you examples in this very thread. You refuse to understant that people are different. Again....work with me here, just because you and your circle of friends do something, doesn't mean that everyone else in the world wide world want to do the exact same thing. People. Are. Different.
It's clear that you don't want it to be different, you want every single solitary person to do what you and your friends do....no thank you.
FWIW, I haven't been talking about me, stop assuming that I am. Or heck, stop assuming all together.
PumpkinAngel
I personally have very limited time and energy to go out after work. It happens - probably once every 2 weeks or so - but isn't frequent. Most of my "socializing" happens on the weekend. Luckily, the friends with whom I socialize understand that ... and we accomodate each to the best of our abilities.
Same here. Occasionally we go out on Friday nights but mostly on the weekend too is when we get together. We just had a wedding on a Friday night but we both only worked half day as well as others who took the entire day off so no one was really exhausted from working all day.
Sure....as soon as you answer why you assumed that I was ignoring people. Will you finally answer that question (since it was asked first) or will you continue to twist the words and "claim" that you don't know what question...ask for it to be posted and then pretend that you can't change the view on the screen....all to avoid answering why you assumed first and asked second?
PumpkinAngel
Of course there are other examples, I just said there were and multiple posters have given you examples in this very thread. You refuse to understant that people are different. Again....work with me here, just because you and your circle of friends do something, doesn't mean that everyone else in the world wide world want to do the exact same thing. People. Are. Different.
It's clear that you don't want it to be different, you want every single solitary person to do what you and your friends do....no thank you.
FWIW, I haven't been talking about me, stop assuming that I am. Or heck, stop assuming all together.
Again, I don't have the same exact circle of friends. I have a few different circles and everyone IS different in them. We ALL do different things. STOP assuming that I think EVERYONE is the SAME as myself as I CLEARY know that they are not. Sigh....
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