Do you think you should rely on a man?

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Do you think you should rely on a man?
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Mon, 09-09-2013 - 3:45pm

I thought the following article was a good read.  It conveys an important message that whatever you decide to do, be prepared to support yourself because you can't count on a man to be there to take care of you.   The author found herself divorced, her ex quit his job and she had a very hard time making ends meet: 

No matter what you do in life, whether you aspire to career greatness or whether you embrace motherhood and housekeeping with open arms, or whether you find yourself doing both of these things at the same time, do it well. Do it with everything you have, with all your heart and with great gusto. But do it wisely.

Don't ever make the same mistake I did and put your life in someone else's hands. And always, always, ALWAYS have a Plan B.

Tell your daughters and your granddaughters and all the other girls in your life this: It's OK to fall in love and have babies and be the homemaker. It's also OK to go to law school or business school or medical school or to beauty school or trade school. In fact, it's more than OK if you want to do BOTH. Better than OK... it's the smart thing to do. Tell our girls that they really can have it all, but ALL on their terms.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-ball/mama-dont-let-your-babies_grow-up-to-be-housewives_b_3773133.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

This is something I feel very strongly about, you never know what life has in store for you so you should be prepared.  

What do you think of her advice? 

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 1:14pm

I could see that but sav's really good at reading details so it's probably pretty easy for her to note the time and date on a post as she scrolls through the news feed. 

How so when she said she doesn't even really look at her BFF's status'? 

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 1:47pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Well, considering the original post is dated, it isn't hard to tell.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">How would you tell though since you said you don't read every.single status?</span></strong></p>

Those statements aren't mutually exclusive.  I don't have to read EVERY post that comes up on my newsfeed to know that posts are date/time stamped. 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 1:48pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I could see that but sav's really good at reading details so it's probably pretty easy for her to note the time and date on a post as she scrolls through the news feed. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">How so when she said she doesn't even really look at her BFF's status'? </span></strong></p>

I said I don't read EVERY one of my BFF's statuses.  You made up the "doesn't even really look at" part. 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 1:51pm

Those statements aren't mutually exclusive.  I don't have to read EVERY post that comes up on my newsfeed to know that posts are date/time stamped. 

No, you wouldn't but you said you don't look at even your BFF's status' so how would you really know if something was old or new?

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 1:53pm

I said I don't read EVERY one of my BFF's statuses.  You made up the "doesn't even really look at" part. 

No you said that about the biking status'.

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:01pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I said I don't read EVERY one of my BFF's statuses.  You made up the "doesn't even really look at" part. </span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>No you said that about the biking status'.</span></span></strong></p>

Umm, yeah ... I do believe I said I don't read her biking related statuses.  So that somehow now equates to I don't even really look at any of her statuses?

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:01pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Those statements aren't mutually exclusive.  I don't have to read EVERY post that comes up on my newsfeed to know that posts are date/time stamped. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">No, you wouldn't but you said you don't look at even your BFF's status' so how would you really know if something was old or new?</span></strong></p>

You're making stuff up again. I said I don't read everyone of my BFFs' statuses.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:02pm

savcal2011 wrote:
It's all about the algorithm FB uses to determine the news feed.

SAV! Stop trying to muddy up this debate with facts and big words. GOD. <rolls eyes>

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:04pm

You're making stuff up again. I said I don't read everyone of my BFFs' statuses.

Why is that? Maybe you should cut down on the 850 friends so you CAN read them. Aren't they more important than just acquaintances?

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:08pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You're making stuff up again. I said I don't read everyone of my BFFs' statuses.</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Why is that? Maybe you should cut down on the 850 friends so you CAN read them. Aren't they more important than just acquaintances?</span></span></strong></p>

I've told you already. But I'll state it again:

1) Not enough time

2) Not enough energy

3) Sometimes it's not interesting enough

4) Often I already know it, as we've talked about it in person or via PM

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1