Do you think you should rely on a man?

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Do you think you should rely on a man?
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Mon, 09-09-2013 - 3:45pm

I thought the following article was a good read.  It conveys an important message that whatever you decide to do, be prepared to support yourself because you can't count on a man to be there to take care of you.   The author found herself divorced, her ex quit his job and she had a very hard time making ends meet: 

No matter what you do in life, whether you aspire to career greatness or whether you embrace motherhood and housekeeping with open arms, or whether you find yourself doing both of these things at the same time, do it well. Do it with everything you have, with all your heart and with great gusto. But do it wisely.

Don't ever make the same mistake I did and put your life in someone else's hands. And always, always, ALWAYS have a Plan B.

Tell your daughters and your granddaughters and all the other girls in your life this: It's OK to fall in love and have babies and be the homemaker. It's also OK to go to law school or business school or medical school or to beauty school or trade school. In fact, it's more than OK if you want to do BOTH. Better than OK... it's the smart thing to do. Tell our girls that they really can have it all, but ALL on their terms.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-ball/mama-dont-let-your-babies_grow-up-to-be-housewives_b_3773133.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

This is something I feel very strongly about, you never know what life has in store for you so you should be prepared.  

What do you think of her advice? 

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Tue, 09-10-2013 - 12:08pm
It may be nobody's plan that tragedy occurs. I believe that God can and sometimes does intervene in Human affairs, but I don't believe most events happen in response to God's micromanagement of terrestrial events. For instance, I believe that the thousands of people who died 12 years ago tomorrow died because of a combination of human evil and being in the wrong place at the wrong time. I do not believe it was God's Plan in any way, shape, or form.
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Tue, 09-10-2013 - 12:58pm

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">No, it is rude to arrogantly assume you know how the universe works and tell someone that it's "God's plan" for them to experience tragedy.</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Then WHOSE plan is it? Have you NEVER experienced anything that could NOT be humanly possible?</span></span></strong></p>

You ask if others have experienced something that could not be humanly possible?  And if one has, that is a huge leap to say that because you experienced something not humanly possible, that God micromanages everyone's lives.  Not everyone would even put the concept together that if they experienced something "not humanly possible" that it means there is a God.  

I can't think of any examples offhand that would convince me of that (so maybe I just haven't experienced any nor have the imagination to some up with any).  Care to give an example of something you have experienced that is not "humanly possible" that should convince a person that God exists?  And if you want to throw in one that also convinces anyone & everyone that God runs all of our lives on this planet, that would helpful also.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
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Tue, 09-10-2013 - 1:15pm

It may be nobody's plan that tragedy occurs. I believe that God can and sometimes does intervene in Human affairs, but I don't believe most events happen in response to God's micromanagement of terrestrial events. For instance, I believe that the thousands of people who died 12 years ago tomorrow died because of a combination of human evil and being in the wrong place at the wrong time. I do not believe it was God's Plan in any way, shape, or form.

And as humans, we truly will never know until our own day has come.

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Tue, 09-10-2013 - 1:20pm

Not that it is not "humanly possible" but just something that you KNOW God had a hand in helping out with. 

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tanchick2013 wrote:
<p>Not that it is not "humanly possible" but just something that you KNOW God had a hand in helping out with. </p>

You were the one who said "not humanly possible."  So do you have any examples that somehow you KNOW God had a hand in helping you with?

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Tue, 09-10-2013 - 1:34pm

Of course, you don't?

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Tue, 09-10-2013 - 1:41pm

tanchick2013 wrote:
<p>Of course, you don't?</p>

As an agnostic, I can say ... NO.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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tanchick2013 wrote:
<p>Of course, you don't?</p>

Is this to me?  Of course I do not.  I already told you that above.  I'm  not even sure what you are talking about, so I asked for an example.  Since you said "of course," you must have one or two.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Tue, 09-10-2013 - 5:39pm

Gotcha, You lucked out and are in a marriage that survived unlike a marriage - just like yours - that would not..... 

I have lots of school work to tackle but will finish replying to some of this later, Interesting directions this has taken. 

 


 


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Tue, 09-10-2013 - 5:41pm

What does character have to do with making enough money to pay all the bills?

Because she's in a marriage where all things are assumed equal to others. 

 


 


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