Do you think you should rely on a man?

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Do you think you should rely on a man?
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Mon, 09-09-2013 - 3:45pm

I thought the following article was a good read.  It conveys an important message that whatever you decide to do, be prepared to support yourself because you can't count on a man to be there to take care of you.   The author found herself divorced, her ex quit his job and she had a very hard time making ends meet: 

No matter what you do in life, whether you aspire to career greatness or whether you embrace motherhood and housekeeping with open arms, or whether you find yourself doing both of these things at the same time, do it well. Do it with everything you have, with all your heart and with great gusto. But do it wisely.

Don't ever make the same mistake I did and put your life in someone else's hands. And always, always, ALWAYS have a Plan B.

Tell your daughters and your granddaughters and all the other girls in your life this: It's OK to fall in love and have babies and be the homemaker. It's also OK to go to law school or business school or medical school or to beauty school or trade school. In fact, it's more than OK if you want to do BOTH. Better than OK... it's the smart thing to do. Tell our girls that they really can have it all, but ALL on their terms.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-ball/mama-dont-let-your-babies_grow-up-to-be-housewives_b_3773133.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

This is something I feel very strongly about, you never know what life has in store for you so you should be prepared.  

What do you think of her advice? 

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:33pm

Sav has demonstrated the ability to read posts and details here and on facebook, I'm not sure why you wouldn't believe that based on something you made up....wouldn't it make more sense to base a belief on reality?

Again, we are speaking about a "fluffy" FB that she really doesn't care about. 

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:32pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Good question....why are you making up things again?  She doesn't have an issue with her fb friends, why do you?  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Issue? Bawhhhaaa....I could care less how many people friends are with on FB. Seems like she was trying to impress us with the number. Not really impressed. One of my gf's has 2,000 friends and she is in her 40's also. I am sure most of them are people she doesn't see on a regular basis either, just acquaintenances. </span></strong></p>

....and yet you have mentioned it multiple times, mocked the number multiple times, just suggested she get rid of some of the friends and have made all kinds of suggestions about what she should do.. but oh yea, all that shows that one doesn't have an issue with the subject.  Ah huh, sure...lol.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:31pm

Yes, you asked tons of them about facebook, it really does help to read the posts. 

They were not questions about things I did not know already.

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:30pm

Hmm....you do know we can see all your posts, right?   

My posts here, of course.

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:30pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Because her statements aren't mutally </span><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">exclusive, one doesn't have to read all the posts to note a post that is older with a new status on it.   It's not an either/or situation....</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Nope you don't but I find it difficult to believe that she would stop to look at dates when she doesn't even read her BFF's posts.</span></span></strong></p>

Sav has demonstrated the ability to read posts and details here and on facebook, I'm not sure why you wouldn't believe that based on something you made up....wouldn't it make more sense to base a belief on reality?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:30pm

Again, my relationships with my close friends is not dictated or even barely influenced/affected by our activity on FB.  FB is fluff.

IYO. Again, others have said how they use it as a communication tool for many things. Why have 850 friends if you are barely influenced/affected by FB? 


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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:28pm

Good question....why are you making up things again?  She doesn't have an issue with her fb friends, why do you?  

Issue? Bawhhhaaa....I could care less how many people friends are with on FB. Seems like she was trying to impress us with the number. Not really impressed. One of my gf's has 2,000 friends and she is in her 40's also. I am sure most of them are people she doesn't see on a regular basis either, just acquaintenances. 

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:25pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">The repeated questions on the subject in this thread, you know...as I just said in my post and then you quoted again.  I find it helps to read the posts, ymmv of course.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Bawahhhaaa..QUESTIONS? lol</span></strong></p>

Yes, you asked tons of them about facebook, it really does help to read the posts. 

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:25pm

Because her statements aren't mutally exclusive, one doesn't have to read all the posts to note a post that is older with a new status on it.   It's not an either/or situation....

Nope you don't but I find it difficult to believe that she would stop to look at dates when she doesn't even read her BFF's posts.

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Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:25pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">1) Not enough time</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">This always boggles my mind. But you have time to "debate" over stupid junk here? Bawhahhaaa....I would rather take the time and have relationships with my friends then to come on just to argue with strangers.</span></strong></p>

Hmm....you do know we can see all your posts, right?   

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