Does America want Moms to stay at home?

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Does America want Moms to stay at home?
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 11:28am
It was actually dh that suggested that America (gov't I suppose) wants Moms to stay at home. From what I have learned from these boards daycare is hideously expensive and maternity leave is very short. Many have said they couldn't afford to work because of daycare costs. Compare this to Canada where we have $7 a day daycare and Quebec is increasing maternity leave to 2 years at 55% pay or 1 year at 75% pay in January. With the $7 a day daycare Moms can easily afford to work, and with the paid maternity leave Moms can easily afford to stay home. It seems that in the states you're 'forced' into situations because it's your only option. Can't afford daycare? Stay at home. Maternity leave too short or have to work to support the family? Go back to work. Would any of you prefer if it would be easier financially to make either decision like it seems to be in Canada or are you fine with how it is?

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 4:56pm
It's not about whose dh works harder. It's about how you assume people with less money don't work hard, which is a load of crap.


Edited 12/14/2005 4:56 pm ET by charlesmama1
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 4:59pm
I'm not saying he doesn't work hard.
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 5:01pm

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Oklahoma's SoonerCare program is vastly underutilized. There are thousands of children going without care ... that could get it if they only applied for SoonerCare.

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 5:03pm
No, not my dh in particular, but you said "Perhaps I'd have more sympathy for the have nots if I saw them busting their a$$es like my DH" ...
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 5:04pm

I agree and disagree.

I think that the US benefits from LEGAL immigration. They work, pay taxes, etc.

I think the US suffers from ILLEGAL immigration. They don't pay taxes and they eat up our social program funding.

So, I think they should enter legally. But our immigration laws make it very very difficult for them to do so.

I say make the immigration laws *SOFTER* so that those who will otherwise enter illegally, can do so legally and the US can actually benefit from their presence.

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 5:04pm
My insurance (which costs $850/month for my company and myself) - covers none of those things.

Mondo Mom

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 5:05pm

cm said it better than i. but let me just conclude your posts in this thread with this if i may..

>>I've seen the 90 hr work weeks DH (youngest VP in the history of his office) puts in, I've got nothing to prove.<<
my dh continues to work that thru many different losses and start all over agains..which has proven his self worth, marketableness and integrity many many times over.....and you do realize that vp is just a title don't you?

M3T whose dh is a vp for the bank he now works at but with many more years, experience under his belt than many other so called vp vanity name plates....i didn't make this a mommy olympic game mgb, you did. done.

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 5:05pm

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Watch out .. you're starting to sound like a Libertarian!

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 5:05pm
Migratory Visa, yayyyy
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 5:06pm
Same here.

You know, I was totally OK with the - you can live on 30K by moving to a low COL area if you really REALLY wanted to - debate

But this one, no way.
Mondo Mom

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