Does money matter when raising children,

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Does money matter when raising children,
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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 10:02am

Do you feel a parents income has a direct EFFECT on the children they raise,

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Tue, 02-15-2011 - 2:55pm
So perhaps than a individual personality has a role in this? I know my 12 year old thinks he is deprived b/c I will not buy him 150.00 tennis shoes. lol, poor kid. While my dd is tickled pink with her brothers old jeans. ;)
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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 3:03pm

I feel that financial stability/instability has a direct effect on children, yes, but I do not think that specific dollar amounts directly determine financial stability unless that dollar amount slips below living wage earnings.





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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 3:11pm

there is a off season at disney here,

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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 3:31pm
I think NOT ENOUGH money can definitely matter. When there isn't enough money to provide a decent home, put food on the table, provide for an education, etc, then money matters.

After that point, I think there is a very large gray area in which money *might* matter .. maybe a better school, or a better home, etc. But that many times that is subjective.


And then there is a point at which more money is just simply that .. more money.

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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 3:32pm
Well, my kids HAVE been to Disney ... but I hardly think they'd be different people if they hadn't gone. I think she's nuts.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 3:48pm

I think that Greatful should mess with her by listing all the places that lady's children haven't been (Hawaii, the Grand Canyon, Paris, Broadway, whatever) and act horrified at how deprived the lady's children are and how fundamentally twisted from their true potential selves they must be for never having those experiences. :smileywink:





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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 4:16pm
I like that idea. After all, I'm positive my children are going to be better than anyone else's because they've been to a Trans-Siberian Orchestra concert.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 5:48pm

ROFL! My kid is DOOMED, doomed I tell ya. I made a decision early on that my kid would NOT go to Disney. Money had nothing to do with it.

However, I do think that the SES you grow up with shapes you in all kinds of ways. OTOH, you can have money and still not be the sort of person who goes to Disney, and you can be scraping by and still make it a priority to take the kids to Disney.

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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 5:52pm

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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 5:54pm

"In other words, a sufficiently deprived environment will tend to have a harmful effect upon the children. But, above a certain fairly low threshhold, you hit the law of diminishing returns, and it doesn't really make a difference."

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