Done w/childcare-what's the difference?

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Done w/childcare-what's the difference?
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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 10:07am

Yesterday morning I put my youngest on the school bus for the first time.

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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 2:29pm

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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 2:33pm

i thought your kids were going to bike and walk to their activities? would that be different if you didn't have a sahp?


i guess i'm just blown away by the idea that anyone would have so many errands to run and so much housework to do that a job would push her free time to the limit. i spend a great deal of time between my job, my social life, volunteer work, gardening, and the like, but i'm still not so squeezed that i have to limit my kids activities--and they would, quite frankly, be considered overscheduled by many.


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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 2:35pm
Because some people are evidently highly invested in what goes on in other people's families?
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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 2:36pm

<<Even if the activities are after school or on weekends, if I'm working, I'd have other stuff I'd need to do during those times that would interfere with the activities. >>


Unless you are involved (parent/child class or coaching) why wouldn't you be able to do those things during those times, anyway?

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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 3:03pm

Once they are in middle school and high school they will be able to walk to most activities. Probably not traveling sports teams if they want to do that kind of thing.

I was thinking more along the lines of elementary students though. Even one activity per kid per week would be a lot for me. I may just need more downtime at home than most of you guys.

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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 3:05pm
Well if it's a drop off kind of thing (or the kids can get to the activity themselves), it wouldn't be a problem. However, don't they like parents to stay for most activities for elementary kids? Since my kids aren't even that old yet, I was thinking more of the little ones than the older ones. DH and I both like a lot of down time at home. Maybe that's the difference?
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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 3:07pm
I don't know if my kids will be like that or not. I do know that in high school, I started joining as many things as I could to avoid riding the bus home. (To bring in another subthread.)
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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 3:24pm

I don't stay at dance classes -- Liza's there for 2 or 3 hours at a stretch - that's golden time to get stuff donw


I don't stay at her rehearsals-- 2 hour stretches of time I can go to the gym or do errands


I used to stay at soccer but that was only b/c it was too short to get much done.


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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 3:28pm

When my kids were in elementary school they did things like chess club (afterschool) and early morning science club and then piano lessons, scouts, church activities, and sports. One of them did viola/orchestra.

The level of parent involvment varied. Scouts at that age is parent/child, so there is a parent involved in most activities with the child. Church activities depends on parent volunteers, but not every parent is at every event. Sports....varied. I usually stayed for games, not so much practices unless I thought the coach was a little wonky. Music lessons, only in the first year or two, when the kid is gonna need a lot of parental support. After that, it was usually a drop-off kind of thing.

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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 3:29pm

My kids are involved in a lot of activities during the school year and I'm sure that my SAH--if it doesn't make it outright possible--makes it tolerable. But the funny thing is because I am at home in the summer, I discourage the kids from signing up for too many things. I don't want summer to just be an extension of the school year and our normally rather hectic lifestyle. I reserve summer for lazy days and impromptu adventures and going with the flow. We kind of use this time to just be a family, few distractions. And where I live, we have to celebrate summer because in two months, we will be pulling out our winter coats.

That's not to say another family couldn't recreate some of this by having a nanny or a family member watch the children. But I *like* my summers with my kids. (So I call it a benefit. :) )

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