Done w/childcare-what's the difference?

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Done w/childcare-what's the difference?
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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 10:07am

Yesterday morning I put my youngest on the school bus for the first time.

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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 10:25am
Beats me. It seems to me that when there is a benefit it is usually because the WOH parent has such a demanding job, and/or has a lot of travel or other unpredictable absences (working random weekends or having random client dinners), that he or she really can't contribute much at home.
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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 11:02am

I returned to work when my youngest was in first grade.

I worked around their school schedule which meant having a parent there when they left fro school and when they got home. Since I worked for school systems the first three years I had the same days off that they did.

The disadvantage of working around their school schedule was it was very hard to take time off during the day. So if I had been one who liked to volunteer at school I would not longer have been able to.

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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 11:06am

Even though my youngest goes to aftercare, it's not populated by only dual wohps, it's utilized by both the sahp and working parents....so not much difference there.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 11:10am

Yes, I can see the benefit to the other spouse in those cases.


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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 11:20am
Well, that is a bit harsh I think. A couple may decide that it is worth it over all, IOW that it benefits everyone.
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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 11:34am

Really?

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 2:53pm

Maybe there would be no difference for your children if there were a SAH parent at your house.

I'm a SAHM who has just spent 10 weeks of summer vacation with my four children, with three more weeks to go. One child has gone to camp for a week. For our family, 13 weeks of summer with a SAH parent is a way different experience than 13 weeks of summer with two WOH parents. (And I'm sure there are children somewhere who are having the same kind of summer as my kids even without a SAH parent.) The only way WE can have this kind of summer is to have a SAH parent. And we see that as one of the benefits.

There are benefits during the school year too but the summer is what was first on my mind when I saw your post.

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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 7:52pm
If I SAH while my children were in school full time, I imagine I'd do most of the errands/house upkeep/cleaning during that time. It would give us more time in the evenings and on the weekends for fun stuff. I would also be more likely to be willing to do more evening activities.
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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 8:40pm
Well, like in every other situation, it's dependent on circumstances and the individual family. Some families will do best with a SAHP. Some won't.

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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 6:33am

if having a DCP is all you think SAH saves then no,i can understand why there would no longer be a difference when a child starts school.


for me,SAH is more than just measuring myself to a DCP though.

 

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