-Easier at home. Whats to debate?

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-Easier at home. Whats to debate?
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Tue, 07-08-2008 - 9:18pm

I am a teacher off for the summer.

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:18am
I really thought SAH was the thing for me, my mom did it and when DH and I first talked about having kids we both agreed one of us would stay home--at least until school started.
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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:21am

I think that it all depends on the individual. And that's where the debate comes in. I don't have a long commute on top of a long work day. I work 10-4/5 3 days a week. At times it has been 10-5, 5 days a week. The other 3 days a week, I work at home. My son thrived in daycare and I had no regrets about leaving him there. Now, he goes to afterschool care and the Boys and Girls Club during the summer even on the days that I wah. When I was a sahp/wahp full time, I didn't spend my day constantly cooking or cleaning. My cleaning schedule hasn't changed all that much because of my work status but it has changed due to the number of kids at home. We are now down to one child at home and he's 10. What made sah/wah (for I've never been a true sahp; I've always earned some money while at home) hard was our 2nd dd, Erica. If it hadn't been for her difficulties, I would've been a ft wohp for the last 30 years. I've also never been the mom who needed to see the firsts, especially after the first child. I was just always glad that our children reached them within in the frame work of the average child.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 06-27-2008
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:21am

I worked at wal mart, see an earlier post, i put all of the details on there about my job.


You can keep an eye on your kids as you clean.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:25am

While I wasn't miserable...it did help give me more of a balance in my life.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:25am
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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:28am

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PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:29am

My mom was a sahm for most of my life. She only went to work when my brother (who is 8 years younger than me) was in high school. And, from the perspective of a child, she didn't have it so bad as a sahm with 3 kids less than 1 year apart. From the early school years one up, it was "go outside and play"; "come in when it's dinner time"; "do your chores and then go play", etc. Outside those first 5 years, raising children doesn't require much direct, constant supervision.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:31am

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:31am

"So, now I have the perspective to see it from both points of view: the working moms and the SAHMs."

You have perspective from two of many different points of view. You cannot put everyone into two camps: sahps and wohps. There are parents who are single and work or sah. There are parents who work part time. There are dual pt working parents. There are ft wohm with ft sahds. There are dual wohms and dual wohds. There are retired single sahds. There are parents who work from home. There are sahms with fulltime nannies. There are dual full time wohps who never use childcare...

There are moms who have been in the exact same spot you are and have a very different perspectives. It isn't just status that affects perspective. It is the moms personality. It is the partner's personality. It is each child's personality. It is also how all the personalities interact. It is the flexibility of jobs. It is the availability of affordable quality othercare. It the debt load. It is if relatives are helpful or a burden and all the lies in between. It is the proximity of relatives. It is difference in religion and world views. It the fact that we all have had different past experiences that color our perspectives. It the health of each person in your life. It changes if you have children with LDs or other disabilities. EVERYTHING affects perspective.

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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:31am

That's what I'll be doing, starting off just a couple, maybe 3 days a week and only from like 9-2.

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