In an effort to change the subject off of TV sizes and on to Sah/Woh

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In an effort to change the subject off of TV sizes and on to Sah/Woh
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Mon, 09-19-2011 - 3:04pm

1) What is that best thing about your status (ftwoh, ptwoh, sah, ptwah, ftwah...)

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egd3blessed wrote:

my friend's daughter competes in softball, she has been on select teams and she has played for her school.

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Also, when I think of how work affects our family life, I have to think about how my day would differ if I weren't working . . . I wouldn't have to wake up, shower, and get ready and get the kids ready by 7:30 every morning. It would be much easier to have a leisurely breakfast, since only DH and DD would need to get ready. Also, right now, I fit excercise in, walking to work and at lunch. That could change if I weren't working full time. Also, I'm taking a class this semester, so I have a 20-45 minute longer day, depending on the day of the week, this semester than usual. Then, because DD has to go to aftercare, we have to go pick her up. It's just different. Right now, about 50 hours per week are very strongly affected by my working. I get up at 6:30, get ready, leave the house at 7:30 (DH leaves shortly after with the kids and drops them off at daycare/before care). I walk to work (30 minutes), work, walk at lunch, work, take my class, leave at 4:20 or 4:45, depending on the day. Pick up DS from daycare, and pick up DD from after care around 5pm. Then we get home around 5:30. DH and switch off making dinner, and we eat usually between 6-6:30. Then, there's about half and hour to an hour to hang out with the kids, then bedtime routine, and the kids are in bed at around 8pm. Then I have 2 hours to do any housekeeping, relaxing, preparation for the next day before I go to bed.

If I were a SAHM, I imagine my day would be something like: wake up at 7, make breakfast for everyone, get DD ready for school and DS and myself dressed decently enough to walk DD to the bus stop, which would be around 8:15. DS and I could come home or go to the park or library for an hour or so. Come home, work on housework and prep anything that needs to be prepped for dinner or run errands. Fix lunch for myself and DS, then it would be nap time. Finish any housework or work on projects around the house, and spend an hour or so relaxing. DS wakes up from his nap, it's time to go get his sister from the bus stop. We have a small snack, they play for a couple of hours (maybe in the back yard or at the park again). Then make dinner. DH comes home, we eat. Then, we would have a couple of hours to do something fun or go for a walk or even to the park again. On the weekends, almost all of the housework would be done, so we could easily take trip somewhere without the house being a wreck for the next week. There would just be more free time for everyone involved.
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Yes and nothing I said in my post contradicts my comments nor does it say what you claim it says.

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cruisingchick2011 wrote:

"The involvement in the day-to-day life is totally different from the vacation/gift-giving when one sees them only occasionaly."

That type of grandparent is a totally different species though. I am speaking of grandparents who don't live close but are in contact with their grandchildren on a regular basis and know what is going on in their lives and are pretty active. 

But knowing what is going on in their children's lives talking about it on the phone or skype verses actually being there as a part of their lives is different too.

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After nine years, you would think someone would open one up, but they haven't.

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Well, it seems to me that if transportation were an issue for these private school parents, they would just push for a bus. They can afford to pay tuition, so they can probably afford to pay for a bus. Many of the private schools around here have their own buses. OTOH, in our public school district, HS kids have to ride the city bus unless they can get a bus exception to ride the MS bus (and few qualify).
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Opps you said go home and then go back out again, not return to work.

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cruisingchick2011 wrote:

I have included some examples with my statements so not sure why this is still be debated.

Because your examples didn't have anything to do with the first point, it changed somewhere along the lines and ggirl and I were discussing a tangent of that, is there a problem?

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I have no idea, I do not own a crystal ball.

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Nope and nope, those would be more incorrect claims.

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