In an effort to start something new.....

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In an effort to start something new.....
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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 4:03pm

What plans have you made for the post child years?

DH and I just getting started discussing them. If all goes as planned(!?!), YDS will be graduating from undergraduate school in ten or so years and DH will be 60 or so year old. So we are looking at options, post HS,post college, where will we live.......

Do you see yourself working in some way for the foreseeable future? DO you see yourself taking things easier? Do you see yourself moving to a different location?

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 9:27pm

I'll be in my 60s when this happens and my dh will be 55 and we'll both retire to take over running our small business at that time.

According to him, over cocktails at our bbq party on the 4th, we will downsize to small 2br ranch style house with no pool and a postage stamp lot with enough room for a small garden. Our children will be welcome to visit serially in the guestroom.

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 11:46pm
The oldest goes to college in 2 years, the youngest two should be done with undergraduate in 19 years. So we've got a long road ahead of us getting all these kids out. At the point we are done I'll be 58 and dh will be 64. He'll be ready to retire I think but since I'm just starting career #2 at age 40, I don't plan to be done at 58. I would like to travel at that point, and I have plans for taking over the bedrooms as the kids leave and what we can do with them instead (keeping some as guest rooms). I doubt we'll move. At least some of the kids will likely stay in this area and I want to be as close to as many of them as I can. I hate living so far from my family. I have told dh that if the kids don't stay here I'm moving to wherever I will be closest to the most of them.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 7:36am

i will be 56, DH 58 when our youngest graduates HS.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 8:16am
LOL, grandbabies...i still get my kicks from watching TLC, baby story.

 

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 8:44am

I will be eligible for retirement in 5.5 years, I will be 47. My husband will also be eligible for retirement.


I would like for both of us to retire and he get a job that pays better money and I get a job that pays less. I would like to be the one with the altruistic job for the second act. I would like to teach Math.


I expect my oldest will play college sports (in 8 years) and would like to travel around and watch his games. My youngest would be in high school at the time.


I guess this is more of a wish list than a plan. I plan for it, my husband likes the current arrangement.

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Registered: 05-10-2009
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 9:00am

What plans have you made for the post child years?

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Registered: 05-10-2009
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 9:01am
Gawd, you are so young!
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 9:46am
i remember being 13 or 14 when my parents talked about buying a bigger house close to the house my dad lives in today.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 9:49am

I honestly don't think every step has to be perfectly planned, as long as you are saving and preparing financially. I'd rather think of this as an adventure, not a connect-the-dots picture.


i agree.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 9:58am

i have an aunt and uncle who have moevd almost as many X as we have, they're settled back home now and have been there since the 1980s.