For either SAHM or WOHMs-Housework-??

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Registered: 04-27-2005
For either SAHM or WOHMs-Housework-??
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 9:59am
How is housework divided in your household between you and dh or so?


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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 10:05am

My dh always mows and does the lawnwork, I will weed
My dh will put in and take out laundry, I fold and put away
Either will vacuum, usually me
Either will mop, usually me
Either will cook, usually me
Either will give kids baths and showers, usually him
I dust and wipe down counters
Either will take out garbage
I do the bills
I call for appointments
My dh will take care of the cars, either doing it himself or bringing to shop
I drop off kids for school/camp/daycare (dh is at work already), I will pick up son, he will pick up daughter
Either one will take kids to parties and activities
Not sure if I missed anything

We both work fulltime

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Thu, 08-16-2007 - 10:15am

I currently have no SO, so it's all my baby. When I did, though, cleaning/maintaining the house was pretty much an equal-opportunity thing. Car stuff and financial stuff was always separate (and would have been even if we'd been married) and kid-related stuff was done by whoever had the best availability at the time.

Cooking was mostly my thing because I'm a control freak in the kitchen. THe exception to that was Friday nights. The job I had at the time was really, really tense on Fridays and I always came home with a migraine, so I'd go straight to bed after work and he'd make his famous Friday Night George Foreman Quesadillas.

ETA: Dishes and laundry were mine by choice, too...I am a freak about laundry and it has to be perfect. No one else can make it that way!LOL And everyone in his house wanted to hand-wash dishes and I insist that they be dishwashered, so I got to do that, too.

I'm really much more of a controller than I usually give myself credit for being. ;-)

Edited 8/16/2007 11:59 am ET by lauren1063

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Thu, 08-16-2007 - 10:25am


Yes. We. Did.

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Thu, 08-16-2007 - 10:27am

For the most part our household workload has shifted according to our work workload.

When I was a SAHM I did the majority of the houshold work (the exceptions being when our kids were at ages where they were very time consuning then in stepped in more).

When I went back to work I worked part time so I continued to do more.

When I started working full time then it became more even. At this point it is fairly close to even, not that we split each job equally but that the amount of time we spend on household chores is fairly even.

But there is still a shift according to work schedules. Two to three times a year DH has four to six week blocks where he puts in a lot of over time and during that time I take over more of the household chores. Oct to Dec is my busy time at work where I put in the over time and during that period he takes over more of the chores.

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Thu, 08-16-2007 - 10:37am
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Thu, 08-16-2007 - 10:42am

Working off your list

DH does the lawn work unless he is working over time, then I will mow and edge but will not weed eat.

We both do laundry, probably about a 60/40 (me/him) split

We both vacuum about a 50/50 spli

Both will mop but probably a 70/30 split

I usually cook

Wiping down counters gets done by whoever does dishes. I dust.

We both take out the garbage.

I do the bills.

We each call for our own appointments.

We each take care of rountine things (inspections/oil changes) on our own vehicles. If it a repair that he can do then he does it but these days most things have to be take to the shop.

You did miss dishes. It is about a 65/35 split.

The kid items you mentioned are not applicable to us any more. Btu I always consider those to be parenting, not household chores.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 10:47am

Thanks! Forgot the dishes!

I usually put them in the dishwasher or clean them, he will rarely. I put them away. He has put them away before and I can't find things for weeks-lol!!

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 10:50am
I do most of the household chores. Dh does the yardwork. I am a sahm.
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Thu, 08-16-2007 - 10:52am
I thought you were talking about housework only. I didn't realize you were talking about childcare as well. I do the running and caring for the kids for the most part too.
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Thu, 08-16-2007 - 11:16am

Me: make the bed, do laundry (including folding and ironning--dh and Dylan put away their folded clothes), run the dishwasher. I also do the grocery shopping and dtaking dh's mom on errands. Dh makes his mom nervous when he takes her grocery shoppping. He tends to hover.

Dh: most of the dishwashing by hand, the yard work, walks the dogs, puts away his clean clothes.

Dylan: put his clean clothes away, puts the dirty ones in the laundry room when it's time to wash them, take out the trash/recycle containers to the curb and bring them in the next day, collect the mail, keeps his room neat, picks up his toys.

Everyone: feed the dogs, empty the trash cans in the house and take the recyclables to their containers, set and clear the table.

Dh and I share: cooking, vacuuming and dusting, cleaning the bathrooms.

I'm sure that I've forgotten chores.


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