I came across this website and thought of the poster who insists that the only way to
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
I'm not real impressed with it.
Just skimmed the site.
This stuck out to me immediately.
Imagine a life without having to choose between a meaningful career and enough time with your children.
Nothing is equal in life, and nothing has to be. Balance is the key and great communication between parents is crucial. Parents is a "partnership" and this means the parental duties are to be shared, but in my opinion, they don't have to be shared equally. This can be very counter productive for the family. If one of the parents has a more flexible schedule, should he/she ask the other parents to pick up the kids at daycare or school, just because that's his/her turn? Nonsense!
Parents have to figure out what works best for them as a family. If that means mom takes care of everything inside the house and dad carpools the kids all the time, be it! It's 2010 and we don't need someone who's just trying to sell their book to tell us what's best for our family. We can figure it out on our own (and maybe share our advice with others!)
I wonder what the creators of that website think of the differences between men and women. Are we interchangeable?
My opinion: A relationship does not need to be equal to be egalitarian.
i never understood what equally shared parenting meant when brought to debate, it sounds like a lot of micro managing adn DH adn i don't live that way, we don't parent that way.