I came across this website and thought of the poster who insists that the only way to
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
Okay - he does not cook and I do not do his laundry. But in the end it is basically even.
But THAT isnt what the board was saying. It didnt say "Well things will even out in the end." it said that things had to be completely equal. All the time.
*Praying for my best friend, my Dad*
I do the majority of the day to day parenting. Why? B/c my DH works hard so that I can be a SAHM. So that I am there to do the daily parenting stuff. The homeschooling, the drs appts, the afterschool activities.
When he comes home from work or has a day off the kids are his. He spends all day with them so I can get a break and he can spend one on one time with them. I love it.
He is always there for school functions, important drs appt or dance recitals and basketball games.
I dont think for a second that we arent equal. I think we are a team and we both are doing what we can to make parenting work for us.
Though the website does site that you do not become a specialist in certain areas while your partner becomes an understudy when you are away. I would not categorize him doing his own laundry and I do mine as becoming a specialist. We both do laundry - he knows how to.
Though I love to cook dinner - so I do - he can cook dinner - he cooks breakfast and lunch so can cook dinner. The idea of the web site is that each partner can do both. If my husband loses his job - I still have one so we lose some of the income not all. If I am away - my H does not need instruction on how to clean and feed the kid or how to put them to bed.
Sounds pretty equal to me. I don't think you can be so literal on the web site that every single thing is exact.
There is no excuse for a dad not to know how/when to get the kids to school.
what i think is most important in parenting is that both are equal in HOW they parent, meaning discipline, values, supporting eachother's roles in the family, et al.
bAck before I was married, I nannied one summer for a couple.
<<...and women who rewash dishes after their husband is done because they did not do it correctly.>>
This made me chuckle because this is kind of how it is for us with the laundry.
I agree but that is not always the case.
I had a situation where a bunch of girls were going out and we had to schedule the time late so that some moms could do homework, feed the kids and put them to bed.
My H can do that. There was more than 1 mom whose husband either could not accomplish that tasks or she did not trust him to do it correctly and I think that is sad. Not sad as in boo hoo I mean sad as in lame.