In the event of your death.....
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|Tue, 08-05-2003 - 10:14pm|
I know that personally, my dh and I decided against my SIL and willed our 3 children to my single, gay brother. The money was the biggest reason. The amount left upon our death is substantial, and we *know* that my SIL would not provide for our children adequetely. (sp) MOF, 10 percent would *have* to be donated to her church, right off the top. This would be 20,000.00 to a church we never attended. (gulp) And, the values are so very different than ours. My brother is Catholic, and we know our children would be raised as such. So in essence, religion was our deciding factor.
I am curious though, if your decision is very important to you, for your children, how is it negated in the event of your death? If, in fact you didn't factor in working status. Is it the idea that you can't tell others how to run their lives, their families? Was it discussed before putting it on paper?
Do you have a choice? IE: In the case of divorce, I think in a lot of states, custody would automatically fall to the NCP in the event of a death. (I'm not sure about that, please correct me if I'm wrong)
Or, is the bottom line, that in the larger picture, work status has no bearing with regards to values, morals, and religion?
This is, to some extent, fodder, but thought provoking as I am filling out beneficiaries for the supplemental insurance I just bought.