Expectations on your children...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Expectations on your children...
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?

If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 12:42pm
What if the carpenter is building a storage system in a garage. Said garage has crappy cement floor that needs replaced to be stable for said cabinets. Therefore, said carpenter needs a jackhammer to remove said concrete.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 12:45pm
I gotta go with LL and CLW on this one. And to use your example, 5 foot tall men that weight 140 pounds soaking wet

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 12:46pm
Yes, but the women you know *do* have the strenth need to do the job ... or else they wouldn't be doing the job.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 12:46pm
Its not actually about control of the children. Its about control of the money - in both cases. The principal is, people who spend entire lives building fortunes of any size, don't want to throw that good money away, genetic ties not withstanding. If an adult turns their back on parents because the parents put stipulations on the conditions under which an inheritance could be aquired...I mean so? Thats a great big grown up 2 year old temper tantrum, thats what that is. If thats who my kids grow up to be, great big overgrown and spoiled toddlers...alrighty then, I possibly screwed up somewhere in the parenting game. But I'm certainly under no circumstance, going to pay my adult toddlers to honour me with their involvement in my life.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 12:48pm
Carrying cement (what happened to the wheelbarrow?) is not a carpentry job. And cutting a 4x4? Even if one person couldn't lift it (which I doubt, woman or man), two certainly could, or one woman alone could use a hoist quite easily. Certainly not something that couldn't be circumvented.

You do realize carpentry doesn't always mean barn raising and the like, right?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 12:49pm

Why can't a woman have the strength it takes to carry those beams or bags of cement.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 12:49pm
Ah, but that was frame carpentry; finish carpentry is an entirely different animal. (And the more skilled animal, at that.) Finish carpentry is the more lucrative job, and the one with the most creative satisfaction.

My father was a master carpenter/cabinetmaker, and I spent nearly every waking moment in his shop from the time I was born until he died when I was 12. I know just a little something about the work. Any hand can do the heavy lifting, and usually does; using a master carpenter for that sort of work is a waste of money. The carpenter is the one next to the beam waiting to make sure it is level and square before fastening it down correctly, he (or she) would not normally be the guy hefting it up.

The primary issue in terms of strength is controlling the power tools; they have a kick.

However, modern safety guidelines have all but eliminated using most of those tools as handhelds; nail guns being the primary exception. These days, you bolt them down and use fixed jigs and fences to make sure the blades stay where they need to be, and away from your hands. I assure you, I can handle large power tools just fine, and I'm faster than many men I know. Doing things like sinking nails with one blow is a matter of skill, not strength; I've been able to do it since I was 5. It is all in the way you wield the hammer, the length of the swing and the angle of the strike. If you don't hit it square, strength won't really help.

BTW, what was a carpenter doing working a jackhammer? That's mason's work. (Now masonry DOES require a lot of brute strength; it is hellishly hard on the body in many ways.)

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 12:49pm

Um, Hollie. . .ya know I love ya, but. . .why doesn't the carpenter just put the 50 lb bag of cement mix INTO the wheelbarrow to move it from truck to porch, then cut it open (using

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 12:51pm

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 12:52pm
You do realize sometimes carpentry *does* mean a barnraising, right?

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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