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| Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm |
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?
If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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aha .. key words "another woman who is strong"
That's what I've been saying. It takes a non-average woman to do those types of jobs.
Hollie
http://attach.prospero.com/n/docs/docDownload.aspx?guid=7E117344-D332-46AD-A2B2-30B19FAEACCF&webtag=iv-pssahwoh
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Yes, there IS a differentiation between a carpenter (who I have learned is more commonly the guys who frame, build out and install trusses and do heavy duty work), and someone who does FINISH work.
The FINISH work is less physically taxing but I don't know if it's less $$$ than regular carpentry.
Mondo
Its actualy funny that we are all talking about this.
If somebody WOULDN'T go to college unless they were bribed into it, their horizons will not broaden. They will attend class only as much as they need to, do the homework as needed, and pay just enough attention to be able to regurgitate answers on the final. That isn't broadening at all. What IS broadening is being rivetted by a subject and paying attention because you want to know, not just because you want to pass. And if you have that attitude, a bribe isn't necessary.
So anybody who needs to be bribed in order to get them to go isn't going to be broadened because they just won't care. And somebody who DOES care doesn't need the bribe. So the whole "contingency" thing doesn't make sense because it it isn't needed for somebody who WANTS college and the tuition is wasted on somebody who doesn't.
Out of curiosity ... was dh's child from that marriage a beneficiary on any of the policies?
Our divorce decree states that each parent must carry life insurance equal to the amount of future CS obligation and that the children be the beneficiaries on such policies. IOW, if xh pays $400 a month for one kid, and said kid is 8, then xh must carry $48,000 ($400 x 12mo x 10yrs) in life insurance (there might even be some stipulations in there acounting for present/future value - dunno wasn't an issue for us). Therefore, the child is guaranteed a level of support for the remainder of his childhood that the xh would have contributed had he remained living.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Hollie
http://attach.prospero.com/n/docs/docDownload.aspx?guid=7E117344-D332-46AD-A2B2-30B19FAEACCF&webtag=iv-pssahwoh
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
You mentioned bouncers, which is a job that, by it's nature, requires a great degree of physical strength to perform. It is more likely that a man can perform this job *better* than a woman because of that physical strength requirement.
There was an article in our local paper a few weeks ago regarding jobs with few or no women. All of them involve tough physical labor. That is the primary reason that there ARE few or no women in these occupations.
Here's a snippet:
>>JOBS WITH FEW OR NO WOMEN
Occupations in Washington state with the lowest percentage of female workers, according to the 2000 Census. List includes total work force and number of female workers.
Occupation Jobs Women
Petroleum, mining, geological engineers 180 0
Rail-track laying, maintenance operators 268 0
Extraction workers 15 0
Riggers 563 0
Tire builders 59 0
Subway, streetcar, rail transport 89 0
Small engine mechanics 1,053 4
Earth drillers 581 4
Elevator installers and repair 516 4
Auto glass installers, repair 487 4
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Why is it difficult to admit that women are limited when it comes to fields that require physical labor? Do you think that by saying so that that is in essence saying women are "inferior?"
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