Expectations on your children...

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Expectations on your children...
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?

If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:17pm
On the flipside, how come there are so few women in some technical areas (i.e. systems work, programming) and engineering when there is nothing to stop them?

Mondo

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:17pm

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:20pm
Yep.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:24pm

Well, do you think there is any merit in encouraging a child who is really half-hearted to just GO AHEAD and get your degree, THEN go figure things out....because 10 years from now when that child DOES care and now has a family to support - that degree could come in really useful - even if it was gotten in a half-hearted method.


I think it's OK to strongly encourage a child to do what is best in the parent's opinion is OK even at 18, or 20, as long as it's not FORCED on them..

Mondo

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:25pm
Of course there are *some* jobs for which *most* men would have some advantage over *most* women, and no, of course I don't have any problem agreeing with that, nor is that in any way saying women are inferior - uh, that was the point of mentioning bar bouncers as a "career" for which *most* women would be unsuited. (What a shame.)

I absolutely disagree that "all" of the jobs on the career list that you presented with few or no female workers "involve tough physical labor" or that there is any indication in the information that you have presented which suggests that the dearth of women is "the primary reason that there ARE few or no women in these occupations." I mean, c'mon, engineering? Subway transport? Small engine or elevator or auto glass repair? You could be in ANY of those fields if you were in physical condition just this side of needing an iron lung.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:26pm

Oh Opinion,Another post I actually agree with you on!

 

 

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:38pm
"I'm not trying to control my daughter's behaviour. What behaviour would I be controlling...she wants the skateboard either way." In your earlier post, you said you wouldn't buy the skateboard unless she demonstrated over the summer a true interest in learning to skateboard. The behaviour you are trying to control is flightiness. You want her to see that a financial investment is a waste if there isn't a personal investment to go along with it. My arents did the same thing when they said they'd buy me a guitar only after they saw me practising diligently on a borrowed guitar. And practise I did. Because I REALLY WANTED to know how to play the guitar. You want a similar proof of personal investement from your dd. You want to discourage (control) the flightiness of buying something because it went across her radar for a few minutes.

And now I'll take this to college. You don't want to buy a skateboard unless you have evidence it will be ridden by your dd and not just sit in the closet. The same logic should apply to college. Why spend $$$$ on a degree that somebody doesn't really want? Better to say "if you want to go, I'll pay for it" rather than "you must go or else no $$$ for you". Don't you want evidence she's going to "ride" that degree and not let it sit in the closet? Somebody who doesn't want college at 18 might want it at 22 after working at Starbucks for 4 years, and then she'll get those broad horizons that college can give to people who really want it. But if she gets a degree just because YOU want her to, not because SHE wants to, the degree will "sit in the closet" as unused and non-broadening as an unridden skateboard.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:38pm
I lift more than 50 lbs every time I go to the gym.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:38pm
Any union construction worker.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:41pm
I've carried my kids - sometimes for blocks - when they weighed 50 lbs.

There are wheelbarrows and hand trucks and a dozen other ways to move the cement. Two people can carry the 4x4's.

No one should be carrying excessive weight, whether or not they can, whether or not they're male.

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