Expectations on your children...

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Expectations on your children...
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?

If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:55pm
I do too (nautilus and free weights). But I do it for a short amount of time, a small amount of reps.

I couldn't do this if it were a regular, continuous part of my daily job.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:58pm
I don't recall saying anything about whether being a joiner is less important or doesn't have more potential liability than a fine woodworker. . . .
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:59pm

<,No one should be carrying excessive weight, whether or not they can, whether or not they're male.>>


I agree. The point is the level at which

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:01pm
If the child is half hearted about college I would not say "go ahead and get the degree, then figure things out" because degrees are exceptionally expensive and time consuming. It is time and money best spent on somebody who really wants it. If my child was half-hearted (perhaps she will be), I would say, "you don't have to go right this minute. Get a job and spend a few years figuring out what it is you want to do. If you want that degree at a later point, the money is there".

Any college prof will tell you that the best students are the older ones because of their extreme focus. There is nothing half-hearted about their commitment and they are not getting the degree just in case they might need it later. They are getting it because they want and need it NOW. They study with a passion. I know this because I was that older student. The only 23 year old in a sea of 19 year olds. And there was nothing half-hearted about my studying. I wasn't doing it because my partents told me it would be a good idea. I was studying so I would know the material and be able to use it at the job I really wanted but couldn't get until I had the degree. But I didn't know that at 18 or even 19 or 20. It took several years of retail slog for me to figure out what I REALLY wanted and when I figured it out, I burned rubber on those textbooks.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:02pm
I know . . . but this argument is physically exhausting me!!

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:02pm
Tell that to a French Literature major. Now that's narrow.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:03pm

My mother struggles with this issue constantly.


My parents own a movie theatre. My mom, when hiring pt help, has trouble finding someone that can do the job (its a very very very pt job, so hs kids is what usually apply). Girls are much better, in her experience (20 years and counting) at doing the math in their heads (no cash registers) and in greeting/serving customers. She has much better customer service with girls than boys. However, the girls can't carry the 50lb bags of popcorn up the stairs to the storeroom. They also have trouble carrying the film canisters (weigh about 50-60lbs). They also don't seem to have the ability (strength) to mop the entire auditorium thoroughly.


Its a real struggle for her. The girls just aren't capable, in general, of the physical demands of the job.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:04pm
That's wonderful you're getting so much support from your DH.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:04pm

Ahh, just that it makes more money.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:05pm
They are both carpenters. Finish vs. frame is a matter of specialization. Framing crews usually use only one skilled carpenter who is being assisted by one or more helpers who are new to the trade. Most carpenters start w/ frame work and progress to finish work, which takes a lot more skill. The most skilled type of carpentry work is cabinetmaking.

Thanks to the proliferation of fasteners on the market today, frame carpenters don't need to be nearly as skilled at joinery as they did in my father's day; you don't see many mortise and tenon joints on ceiling joists any more.

Frame carpentry crews normally work from engineered plans. The load specs and measurements are all on the plan; they just have to follow it and make sure that the materials are up to spec. The foreman of the crew might have some engineering skill, but that's all; you only need one person who can handle the math. Finish work normally requires the carpenter to do his/her own calculations and map all the cuts; it's more complicated because of that.

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