Expectations on your children...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Expectations on your children...
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?

If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:08pm
You realize we are talking about a person's ability to support themselves here - the earn money to buy food version of earning a living - not the gosh darn look someone's willing to pay lil ol me while I persume my hobby tee hee isn't that charming version. Part of developinig a reputation and experience to do what one wants, involves taking work when and where its available.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:10pm
Obviously, you don't belong to any of the unions associated with the building trades.

Just LET a carpenter try to mess with any masonry on a union jobsite. All work will come to a screeching halt immediately while the masons' union decides whether or not to raise holy h&ll with the gen'l contractor.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:11pm
Lifting weights and actually lifting stuff in real life are two completely different things.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:14pm
What is excessive for the average female is not excessive for the average male. That is the point. Men are physically stronger. Thats all there is to it.
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Registered: 03-18-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:24pm

I really thought so too, till my inspector came out and said the whole roof was wrong, had insufficient slope.

Mondo

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:25pm
Okay, then I'll clarify and say that lifting more than 50 lbs at the gym regularly has enabled me to develop my muscles such that lifting 40 lbs of cat litter and 80 lb bags of salt for my water conditioner is not a problem for me.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:27pm
No, I don't really want her to see anything. This is something that will be of value to her whether she rides it or not. I can't change that. I won't value it unless she uses it. And its my money. Oh, btw, I have no evidence she'll ride it once she gets it, even if she become skateboard pro on her brothers over the summer. I'm just doing what I can to stack the odds in my favour.

Ditto for the college thing. My money, my idea of value that counts. I don't believe a degree would be wasted at all, whether the kid want it or not. Once they've got it, they've got it, and they can use it to their benefit if they ever want to, or need to. If I end up needing to direct my inheritance before I can actually see *who* I'm directing it to, I probably will put *university education* type stipulations on it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:29pm
Yes, I agree - where we differ is that I think you're incorrect in assuming that the guy putting the roof together is the guy who engineered the roof to be to code - it's more likely the guy standing on the ground lifting not much more than a pencil. See the posts by, oh, heck, she's got a difficult username, 6719ard.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:31pm
All the more reason to stick with the most lucrative and skilled aspects of the profession and avoid the gruntwork.
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Registered: 03-18-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:33pm
I know, and would have agreed till my personal experience told me otherwise (see my response to her).

Mondo

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