Expectations on your children...

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Expectations on your children...
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?

If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:49pm
Of course you know, as a woman, you're likely not capable of lifting a cow by yourself and therefore really aren't suited for veterinary work, right?

Good luck with that. It's often harder to get into vet school than med school.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:54pm
But TIPPING them over when they're asleep isn't that hard...... ;)

Mondo

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:55pm
Madam, where would you like your iron lung? I'll just have this here carpenter carry it right in, LOL. . . .
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 3:03pm
No, its about control of the money. If adult children feel controlled, and are outraged that they can't have the money on their own terms, then the adult children have problems. Being as they are really adult toddlers throwing temper tantrums. Or they are overly needy of a parents validation. Whatever - the child has the problem at that stage. I mean, if Bobby has, I don't know, say $300,000 waiting for him from Grandpa, should he decide to go get a University education...and Bobby decides not to get a University education...then its clear...Bobby values the option to stay out of University at $300,000 or greater. I don't know, to me, thats insanity for any young person staring down a lifetime of adult responsibility to support themselves - Bobby must be very very spoiled. The only problem would occur if Bobby were intellecutally incapable of successfully completing a degree - but chance are, that isn't the case. Its not complicated. The child has total control of everything but the money that doesn't belong to him.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 3:07pm

What if Bobby is an ace inventor, has a marketable product (according to adequate research), and

Mondo

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 3:39pm

Lift a cow huh.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 3:43pm
Or what if bobby wants to be a Paramedic.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 3:56pm
My father was a master carpenter. He built homes among other things. Pretty heavy work. He did beautiful wood work. You should have seen the bookshelves he built in his house. Unfortunately, they were too heavy to move so they'll be sold with the house.

I grew up helping my father build things. I'm fully aware of how much physical strength it takes. Yes, some women can handle what my dad did but that is not a given. The notion that women can do any job nearly killed one of my coworkers not too long ago when a female hydraulics apprentice failed to tighten a fitting. 3000 PSI hydraulic fluid can do a lot of damage. Her excuse? She couldn't turn the wrench (this wrench is huge). IMO, if you can't turn the wrench, don't take the job. I'm no wimp but I couldn't do what my father did. If I took up carpentry, I'd have to specialize in cabinetry or something lighter. My father built some beautiful homes in his day.


Edited 6/7/2004 4:19 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 3:58pm
Everyone's wrong but her.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 3:58pm
Are you sure? I've heard of women passing the fireman's test.... Of course, you may not have WANTED to be a fireman.....

Mondo

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