Expectations on your children...

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Expectations on your children...
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?

If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 3:59pm

Although I will admit that I am scared to death of the schooling.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 3:59pm
Good grief. I didnt' say there were none. I have a friend who could be a lumberjack if she wanted to. I KNOW how hard my father worked and I doubt either of my dd's has the physical ability to do it. Most women don't. Yes, some do, but they're rare.


Edited 6/7/2004 4:20 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:00pm
Yes. There's nothing like dependency.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:02pm
Part of the test in Oregon is to be able to carry a 150lb dummy out of a second story building down the ladder.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:09pm
My FIL chose to leave a large part of his estate to his grandchildren instead of his children. No one will fight that but they couldn't if they wanted to. Dh's uncle left millions to charity rather than his kids because his kids were irresponsible. No one has to leave anything to anyone and if they do, they can leave what they want to who they want and there is nothing that anyone else can say about it. My step mother has willed her estate to my brother and I instead of her children. That is her choice. I'm not sure what we're going to do here as we don't want any of it but her wishes are it not go to her kids. Especially her dd who grew up to be totally irresponsible. Personally, I think she's being unfair to write off her son. She simply never liked him. I understand her writing off my step sister who will never amount to anything but not my step brother. It's going to be ugly but I'm sure her will will stand.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:09pm
Oh no, you were so young - and during the hardest academic year of all!

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:11pm
Life is too short to squabble over money that isn't even yours. So what if her mom offered financial incentive for her to go to school. All she has to do is say no if she doesn't like the terms.

Sorry to hear about your mom. Lost my mom many years ago. It would have been nice for my girls to have met their grandmother.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:17pm
Most people choosing careers that require physical strength generally already have some. Then as they do the work they build up.

I am an unusally muscular female. In part it is genetic but it is also because I do things that are strenth building. My job requires a lot of physical strength. Carrying heavy boxes often up and down a ladder. When I first started my job every night I went home with tired sore muscles. Now I can do it all day long and not even think about it.

Someone choosing carpentry as a career has probably already done some, either in high school, trade school or helping family, friends etc. Someone who has not lifted a hammer, carried a 2 by 4 etc does not just show up at a work site. So they are starting the job with some upper body strength as they do more and more they get stronger and stronger.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:22pm
Finding a dh to support you is not independence. It's just another form of dependency.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:24pm
But for many, it is an acceptable form of dependency.

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