Expectations on your children...

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Expectations on your children...
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?

If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:25pm
Unless the carpenter was the gen'l contractor, that's not true. The party who supplies the plans has final reponsibility under the Spearin doctrine. However, in most jurisdictions there is an implied warranty of Workmanlike Performance on the part of the builder; responsibility for that lies with the general contractor.

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:27pm
I coped in large part thanks to my Dad and my DH (who was barely my BF at the time). When I briefly contemplated quitting law school, Dad told me how disappointed she would've been that I would let all my hard work go because of her. So I finished out the year, ranked #99 (I'll never forget that - I was like "yay! I'm in the top 100!") but graduated #7. I'd like to think she would've been proud. :)

She never met my DH. It's interesting because it's like they "passed" each other . . . the night she died was the first night he and I spent together. He was there in the morning when my Dad called to say Mom was slipping away. Ok, I've gotta stop or I'll start crying at work!!!

I'm very sorry to hear about your mother too. 35 is still way too young to lose a mother.

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:27pm

Hehehhe, I just took this issue up with the architect last week (after 2 years, I'm only now emotionally capable of dealing with this again).

Mondo

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:48pm

Noelle - I'm so sorry for bringing up such hard memories.

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:50pm
I'm so sorry you guys.

Mondo

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:53pm
Thanks Cheryl.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 5:01pm
Actually unionized jobs (which most skilled labor jobs are) can be real sticklers about everyone doing only the job they were hired to do.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 5:06pm
I do agree that it takes woman with some strength but I don't agree that means a non-average woman. There is a big range to average, average woman are strong. I think that many average woman could handle it and many more could handle it with a bit of strength training.
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 5:09pm
Oh Lordy, look at us blubbering away!! :)

Please feel free to email me if you ever need a sympathetic ear, I'd be more than happy to listen.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 5:11pm
Well, check your local law, but Spearin applies throughout most of the US. I'm not an attorney, this isn't legal advice, but my family is heavily involved in the building trades. Spearin protects contractors when the plans are not sound. Spearin says that the owner is liable for defects in the specifications, and the implication there is that the owner has supplied the plans to the gen'l contractor. It gets picky in terms of who had responsibility to whom.

If your architect messed up, then it's between you and the architect. If the gen'l contractor was working directly for you, then the implied warranty of workmanlike performance on his part only means that he had a duty to notify you that something didn't look right if normal review made that obvious; making sure that whatever it was was corrected would have been up to you (which it sounds like you ended up doing.) If the flaw was not obvious to the gen'l contractor, he didn't have to go to great lengths to triple-check all the measurements and do stress tests to look for flaws; there is a presumption that supplied plans are sound.

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