Expectations on your children...

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Expectations on your children...
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?

If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 3:26am
That's why God invented handtrucks, dollies, and other types of wheeled apparatus to move things. My Dad owns a set of "wheels"; casters bolted to a steel triangle. He can put those things under the corners of heavy furniture (takes much less strength to tip furniture slightly than to lift it entirely) and then wheel things where they should go. Put the wheels under a 2'x3' board and you have a nice little jury-rigged "cart" that you can load just about anything onto, bags of cement or other items that wouldn't do well on a normal handtruck.

I have a 250-lb capacity handtruck that I bought for $20 from Home Depot. YOu can get one with a 750 lb capacity for under $50.

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 6:08am
That was a Rodney Dangerfeld movie! When is a beneficiary not going to be able to make his own decisions to fulfill the condition? The alcoholic is making a decision to drink everyday. I just don't see any difference between conditions to stop drinking, to go to college, etc. - it's someone else's money and he can do with it as he choses.
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 6:21am
How much more planning can a sahm do than I did - college and law school then several yrs of work? If I were to divorce in 5 yrs, I'd be in an almost equal position as is FSW - in fact, she's probably better off since her brother owns restaurants.

Should no woman sah to raise children?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 6:26am
How is not giving my adult children access to my money treating them like children?
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 6:31am
I think it improved my ability to write which, from what I've seen, can be the difference between which lawyer a firm hires. Other than that, I think back on all of the final exams that college students cram for. Within a week, I think most information is forgotten.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 7:43am

The decision wasn't made for another to stop drinking, the decision was made not to give it to him in one big lump sum...but over a period of time in smaller installments.

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 7:46am

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Not really, no. She has several marketable skills. Perhaps you've been skipping those threads.


In any case, even if she is dependent on her dh for funding, that doesn't mean her only other source of funding is her estranged mom. So you're wrong again - being self-sufficient isn't the only thing that will put her in the position of not truly needing her mom.

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 7:50am

<<In a small crew, you do everything.>>


Which has nothing in the world to do with a woman's ability to become a master carpenter. Got any more straws to grasp?


- BTW, about 90% of lifting and carrying is about leverage and balance, not strength. When I was in high school I weighed all of 92 pounds but routinely lifted and carried 50-lb sandbags as part of my job. No biggie. My dad framed and finished an addition on our house all by himself when he was in his 70's, and he's a skinny little thing.

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 7:54am

Who has said anything about it being a walk in the park? The point was (if you recall) is that CLW said women couldn't be master carpenters - that it was not a feasible choice.


You think all people who go to law school have to put in equal effort to pass the bar? What makes this any different?


And you're wrong in the implication that only a minority of women could meet the physical requirements. As someone said earlier, most women think they can't just because they haven't conditioned themselves to be strong. Instead, they've mentally conditioned themselves to believe women can't be strong. And apparently they're working now on conditioning their daughters to think the same way.

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 7:56am
But women are strong enough to get the job done. THAT is all their is to it.

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