Expectations on your children...

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Expectations on your children...
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?

If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 7:58am

<<Because, by nature, physiologically, men aren't as good "nuturers" and those are more nurturing jobs.>>


I hate to burst your bubble, but that's a crock.


The second part of your post is the rebuttal to the first.

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 8:07am
NO! F'N! WAY! There is a whole world of money out there that Bobby can access if his idea is REALLY up to snuff...VENTURE CAPITAL! Let people whose business it is to invest RISK capital do it for little BOBBY! No way no how would any inheritance I leave behind be earmarked for that kind of RISK. Student loans are infinitely easier to come by than risk capital. There is a darn good reason for that. Unless I am personally still kicking and CEO of a VENTURE CAPITAL firm, with a well paid staff expert in specifically determining the nature of risk involved in Bobbys little plan...would I venture anything even remotely describeable as MY money out there. The money in question is not a high risk DREAM fund.
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 8:32am

I don't think that an 18 year old is necessarily mature enough to realize how vital college is.

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 8:35am
I never crammed for an exam in my life.

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 8:41am
Why? Unless a field requires a degree for entry, that degree is going to be worth as much as any other. I suppose it can also get you into teachers college, or boost your promotion potential in a bunch of other areas that benefit from a second language.
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 8:55am
Nah, both my parents and my husband Mom went to University after having kids. Its a strategy well worth avoiding. The teaching profession changed on my Mom, and it became financially very desirable for her to get that degree afterall, esepcially after the cost of putting my Dad through school while having two young kids to support. My Dad had to quit school at 13 to support his family, and didn't get a chance to even finish highschool till later in life. The dependancy option didn't work out for my mother in law and divorced with a 3yr old, she needed more income potential. 4 years in college is no bigger a waste of time than 4 years out of it at that particular time in life. There are no magic Gr 12 education required jobs that are going to help kids find themselves. University isn't really job training - its not really about learning material to be used on the job. They used to tell us "If all you want is a lab tech job, quit now and go get yourself a 2 yr community college diploma". 18-22 is EXACTLY the time of life to get the deed done if its going to be done. Even my sister, with her MSc which she used to get herself a lab tech job, and then an entry level admin position in a university...is now realizing that since she aspires to climb that university admin ladder...the advanced degree is not irrelevant afterall...and this kid really REALLY didn't want to go to university AT ALL. Your degree (obtained at 23 with full heart) isn't going to be worth any more to any employer than my sisters other half hearted one.
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 8:55am
If you returned to the work force you would be able to move up the ladder. You would just have to start at the bottom again. But I disagree that you are in a worse position than a high school graduate with NO work experience. A new attorney doesn't make starvation wages. Take a look here: http://www.law.com/special/professionals/nlj/earn/earns_2.html#7

Jenna

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 8:57am
As the daughter and granddaughter of master cabinetmakers, and presuming your comments in this thread thus far reflect your true beliefs about women and their physical abilities, you could never cut it as a master cabinetmaker. Decent, quality cabinets are heavy; in most cases, much heavier for the volume than wall raising, et al. If you can't hack general carpentry, you'd never manage with the specialized nature of cabinetry work.
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 8:58am

"Nah, both my parents and my husband Mom went to University after having kids. Its a strategy well worth avoiding."


Couldn't agree more.

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 9:00am
This is soooo misleading.

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