Expectations on your children...
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Expectations on your children...
| Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm |
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?
If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Of course graduation gifts are only given to those who graduate. And wedding gifts are only given to those who get married. And you could say those are gifts with contingencies because one must do a particular thing to be given the money. I think it's all in the presentation. Parents don't generally say "I'll give you 500$...but only if you get married". Instead, they wait to be given news of the engagement and only after that do they start talking about wedding gifts. So the money is not held out as an incentive to get married because the parent thinks that marriage is in the best interests of the child and financial incentive is a way to encourage them to do it. I think timing and presentation make the big difference between a gift and a bribe. A gift that is only given after something has been done is still just a gift. But money that is discussed as a reward for doing something that the person would otherwise not have done is a bribe.
aha ... didn't realize the child in questions was no longer a child.
Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Setting conditions upon the terms under which they will have access to my money is not controlling the children, nor is it treating them like children. It is treating them specifically like adults - that would be, people for whom I am absolutely no longer financially responsible, and its treating the money specifically like its mine - that would be, not theirs.
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