Expectations on your children...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Expectations on your children...
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?

If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 11:52am
Um, exactly why is that scary? Are you suggesting that if a perfectly capable 4 year old aspires to be a famous ballerina she should be discouraged? AT FOUR YEARS OLD???? You scare me quite frankly.
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 11:55am
ROFLMAO. Yeah I used my university education to get a job and I worked my a$$ off in said job. I have returned to that job on a couple of occasions to help out my former employer because the work is in fact vital. I have been a total slave to my job. Then I got educated on personal finance. I quit my job and pursued working for me and making my money work for me. No, at present I do not have a job. Why? Because I don't need the money.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 12:46pm
I think that slave thing them is a personality trait...not something university creates. Just be thankful you did go to univesrity...or you could have been slaving for min wage instead.
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:09pm
That would be lovely if that is her desire for her life. Her grandfather (my dad) is also a doctor. She does not have to enjoy anything domestic. H*ll she can have a maid, chef, chauffer, and never touch a sewing machine or dig in the garden. I'll be proud of her & supportive of her because she is who she is and is living her life her way!

Did you really think I'd think otherwise? Surely not.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:17pm
What my brother is willing to pay me today to be the bookkeeper for his restaurants is competitive. Not something you would earn just going out to get a job to make a little extra money.

My family, as well as I, don't see me as financially dependent. I'm in a marriage, we are a team, we have a bank acount that is ours. Sure, dh earns the dollars that go into it, but that doesn't keep it from being ours. Just like the deed to our home is in our name, both cars are ours, so forth.

My brother wants me to work for him because he wants it to be me in that position for his 4 restaurants rather than hiring out to someone else. We like the idea that family works for family. My dad's niece is one of his nurses for instance. She didn't need him to give her a job. But my dad would rather hire a family member over another person when they are both qualified equally to do the same job. Perhaps you don't understand that we enjoy each other & want to work together, if we are going to work out of the home.

My brother's wife is a sahw. My sister, owner/manager of a company, will become a sahw when she marries. I really don't think they see anything difficult or odd about sah. lol

Your post is so funny. It could not be farther from the actual truth of our family. Your odd view of life is well, odd and thank goodness none of us share how you believe people should live and raise their kids!

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:18pm
See my post to O123. No need to repeat myself.

And since my brother's wife is a sahw & my sister will become a sahw, you are wrong.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:19pm
I'd be earning the paycheck and doing the job. I could do it today. I could do it if I needed it. If someone was taking care of me, they would hand me the money and I wouldn't have to bookkeep, do payroll, sew, cater to get the money, now would I?
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:20pm
You see dependency as a bad thing. I don't. Dh & I don't see dependency, we see us working together as a team. My brother and I are not dependent on one another, he needs a bookkeeper, he would love to see me take the job over giving it to an equally qualified person who is not family. It is really easy to understand, but I know not for you :o)
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:24pm
No need to prove anything to her. I haven't needed her since I walked out of her house at 18 and married. I would not have needed her had I not wedded.

My dh is not a money bucket. He has worked hard & earned every penny we have and we have ever spent. Nothing was given to us and he is far from a trust fund rich boy lol There is also nothing wrong with a husband and wife being a team, which we are.

I am employable. But explaining it to you again, is really not worth my time when I could be sipping wine with dh which is much more fun

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:24pm
I didn't look for a dh to support me. I married the man I fell in love with and through the years he has became successful and yes, supports our family quite lovely.

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