Expectations on your children...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Expectations on your children...
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?

If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:25pm
Thanks Taylormomma. I wasn't going to rehash them since she has her own uninformed opinion.
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:27pm
She sure can. Of course, they would be allowed to use their own discretion to accept money from a woman they have never met.
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:29pm
I wouldn't go to college under any circumstances. Paying myself, Parents paying, full paid scholarship. You misunderstood.


No, if mother paid for college, which she was planning to do for all of us, then yes we had to major in what she said and get the degree in that field. However, I could have easily went to college on my own through sources other than mother paying for it and majored in home economics, interior design or whatever. I did not desire to go to college. So I did not go.


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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:31pm
That would be you. You did what was right for you. As you should. I did what was right for me and living proof of how happy I am, I did the right thing. I'd do it all again the exact same way.
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:32pm
TRUE
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:33pm
True
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:35pm
I didn't refuse to go to college to spite my mother. I refused to go because I did not want to go. I could have went without having mommy pay for it. I don't care anything about the inheritance. I don't feel I'm giving up a thing.

My mother & I could be on the very best mother/daughter terms & I would have chosen not to go to college.

My mother could have still been the way she is and said I could major in anything I wanted, I still would not have gone to college.

My decision to not go to college had nothing to do with my mother, but all about myself. Dh did not go to college either.

My siblings didn't go to college but they weren't in spite of my mother. Like I, they had other ideas for their life & have been successful.


Edited 6/10/2004 6:59 am ET ET by foreversahwoman

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:37pm
Yes, my dd will make her own dreams come true. Just as I did. We are giving her every route we can to make things easy for her. Including paying for any college she would want to go to after HS or whenever after HS.

I don't care what dd does with her life, it is hers. She decides never to marry, that is fine.

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 10:05pm
No, you don't understand what I am saying. University turns out well educated people who can get the good jobs. They then strive to keep the good job, working for a decent wage, financing themselves to the ying yang so they are scared to death of losing the good job. That is what makes them a slave to the employer. When/if they do lose the good job, they are unable to cover their debts and declare bankruptcy. OTOH, folks who learn how to manage money make their money work so they don't have to. I don't regret my university education, except for the fact that it prevented me from the education that has truly made the difference in my life, for a few years. I bought into the get a good education theory, as you clearly have.
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 10:11pm
I am wrong that I thought OP123's comment was interesting?

Okaaaaaaaaaay.

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