Expectations on your children...
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Expectations on your children...
| Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm |
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?
If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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>>the job my brother keeps offering me<<
So your brother would give you a job in an area that you are not particularly experienced and over hiring someone who DOES have experience.
>>free rental places to live through my Dad's farms & properties with not even utilities to pay for. My sister lives in one of them, rent & utlity free, until her wedding next year.<<
Your dad gives you a free place to live AND foots your utility bills. That's basically handing you money.
>>I can easily get my real estate lic., work in dad's office, work with my brother's restaurants, plus on the side ask for pay for all the free designing & sewing I do.<<
Again with the brother giving you a job (or dad now). Real estate sounds like a good option - what are your familial contacts in that field?
>>I even have free childcare w/my brother's wife who has offered that today if I will take the bookkeeping/payroll position with his restaurants plus she will homeschool for free then as she has offered to do anyway in a few years as she homeschools their children.<<
Now your SIL is kicking in the freebies with childcare and homeschooling.
>>In either situation I could also easily pay someone to do the cooking, cleaning and lawn care while I do work to provide for my dd & I.<<
I suppose you could easily pay someone because you don't have any other expenses since your family is covering your rent, utilities, childcare and education! LOL
>>Then there is my sister who owns a company. She is going to be a sahw after her marriage next year but will continue to own the company & reap the profits. There is potential work there for me if I ever want or need a salary.<<
So if the jobs offered by your brother or your dad don't work out, now you can rely on your sister. Job handouts all over the place!
>>All of this doesn't even touch that if something happened to dh I could go to work for my inlaws business.<<
And finally if all else fails, the inlaws will give you a job.
>>My family, as well as I, don't see me as financially dependent.<<
You are clearly financially dependent on your entire family. But go ahead and keep telling yourself that you're not if it makes you feel better.
And whom I'm sure they've heard glowing things about too.
To answer your question...I am qualified to do the bookkeeping & payroll for my brother's restaurants or he wouldn't even offer it to me. But yes, since I am qualified, of course he would rather give the job to me, pay me that same salary, as to pay another person, non family, the same salary to do the exact same thing. I see nothing odd about that at all.
If something happened & Dad gave me a free place to live plus paid for the utilities I see it as a non issue. He did the same for my brother and is currently doing the same for my sister until her wedding. If I needed something, he would help.
My husband is a real estate agent & I do all his bookkeeping and office work. Gathering all the paperwork for his closings, help him write ads for listings, whatever he needs. There have been many people working for realtors doing the same thing I do for my dh and then they will learn the ropes, get their lic and become agents themselves. That is a possibility if I needed to work since I am familiar with real estate.
My SIL has always said if I'd take the bookkeeping job for my brother she would keep my dd for no charge. She always said she would homeschool my dd at no charge. That applies if I continue to be a sahw, work for her brother, or whatever. There is no tag to it that I have to work for her husband for her to make these offerings to me. We are family, we help each other out. Is this really hard for you to understand?
I could easily pay someone to do the cooking, lawn, etc because dh has insurance for me to live on, investments, monies from different areas and the mtg would be paid in full. It has nothing to do with whether I take a job working in my dad's office or not.
Job handouts? So what if I just happen to be fortunate enough that 3 family members have businesses they could all offer me work in? To me, I'm lucky to have these options.
It really doesn't bother me to be financially dependent. You on the other hand apparntly have issues with it and those issues are yours, not mine.
I have the skills to do the job. I just have chosen not to accept it as I'd rather continue being a sahw.
That is more important to me.
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