Expectations on your children...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Expectations on your children...
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:56pm
Wrt their working status/parenting as an adult?

If you SAH, will you encourage your daughter (or son) to do the same? How would you feel if they chose different from the path you have taken as a parent?

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:30pm
Yes, I am. But sahw can easily know how to bookkeep. I've always taken care of the family matters & dh's business. Plus, I've helped out with the books plenty for my brother & dad in their respective businesses. Not talking a day here or there. Actually done the books for them for long periods of time.
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:32pm
I have done the research and I am very well aware of the failure rate of businesses and the lack of profitability in early stages of business development. Are you aware of those other businesses that are outrageously profitable in the first year or two? Yes the rate of failure is high and usually caused by a lack of planning or other errors. My point was simply that you cannot assume based on stats or on people that YOU know, that FSW could not be successful. I personally know many very successful business people who made huge profits right out of the gate. That doesn't mean I will assume that everyone will be. FSW has written nothing that would indicate she is not capable - that is my point.

BTW, I had a child when I was 18 y/o. Although I married her father, who turned out to be a compulsive closet gambler, I raised her primarily alone. While raising her, I put myself through university. I know very well how difficult it can be establishing yourself as a parent. It is NOT impossible however. Having a child dependent upon me motivated me more than anything else could have. For me, having a child early is probably the single most contributing factor to my success.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:33pm
My brother would laugh at such a low paying salary for his bookkeeper. Definately not in the ballpark.

I do have other marketable skills. Thanks again for your help in this thread of people who just don't get it.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:34pm
My dh would prefer if I chose to work that my salary never pay for house/utilities. It would be our money, as is his. But would never foot the bill for water, mtg, food or even a cleaning lady.

This is how we together chose our life to be before we said I do.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:36pm
So narrow you can't even find light through a pin hole in it.
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:38pm

Both Einstein and Edison were labeled as retarded as children and Beethoven lost his hearing, yet continued to compose.


Heather Whiteside McCallum, former Miss America, was an accoplished ballerina. . .who was also deaf.

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Virgo
 
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:38pm
Refused to my mother to go under her conditions. Decided definately not to go because I knew I didn't want to go in my life.

My mother could have been totally different and be living next door & us in a loving relationship today. I still would not have went to college because I chose not to go.

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:38pm
When my dh and I got married we both worked f/t. Right from day 1 we lived off his income only. Mine went to investments/savings. When our investment income exceeded his income, we continued to live off his income. We have improved our standard of living by moving to a bigger and better house, but never increased our debt - in fact eliminated it - on his income as a child welfare social worker.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:41pm
What BULLSH**! I fell in love with him, deeply, and dated him for a few years and we decided together to get married, he proposed we are husband & wife today because we love each other!

He didn't have much earning potential other than working for his parent's (which was fine, but not something he knew he wanted to spend his entire life doing) when we got married! He decided his career AFTER we said I do and was back from honeymooning!

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:42pm
That shows how narrowminded some people are.

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