Facebook Etiquette Debate

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Facebook Etiquette Debate
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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 8:10am
Issue: Mom throws a birthday party for her 8 year old son that involves ten kids ages 7 to 10. Takes photos and puts two dozen of them up on fb for friends and relatives to see. Kids are not tagged or ID'd in any way other than as friends of the birthday boy. Photos are set to "friends only." Mom of one of the boys, who is not a fb user, throws a fit and says she never consented to have her son's photo on fb and demands they be taken down. This kid is in about half the photos. WWYD?

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 8:13am
Shoot! I meant to post this in the other folder. Oh well. Pretend one of the Moms is WOH & one is SAH. Carry on.
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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 8:16am

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 9:13am
bordwithyou wrote:
Issue: Mom throws a birthday party for her 8 year old son that involves ten kids ages 7 to 10. Takes photos and puts two dozen of them up on fb for friends and relatives to see. Kids are not tagged or ID'd in any way other than as friends of the birthday boy. Photos are set to "friends only." Mom of one of the boys, who is not a fb user, throws a fit and says she never consented to have her son's photo on fb and demands they be taken down. This kid is in about half the photos. WWYD?

I would take them down, I would respect the mother's wishes although I think throwing a fit is a bit excessive.

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 9:14am

I agree, I don't think either party is wrong here, except maybe the fit throwing.

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 9:15am

I'm sure the mom didn't mean any harm by it, but I understand the other mom's concerns about the pictures being on FB w/o her consent.

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 9:16am
I would take the photos down. I wouldn't think I'd done anything wrong, but out of courtesy and her right to "control" her child's publicity, I'd take them down or edit the kid out.

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 10:00am

Crop around the kid and all future invitations will note that you intend to post any pictures taken, so if you don't want your kid on FB, don't show up.

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 10:03am
I would probably take the pictures down or do a custom privacy setting so that only my family members could see them, tell them to go look quickly and downlload the ones they want to keep, and then take them down a few days later. But it does raise a few other issues....such as, if my kid is in Cub Scouts, or on a baseball team, or in the school choir, do I have to get the permission of every parent involved to share pictures of my kid that their kids happen to be in? What if it's a public event like the Cub Scouts riding a float at the homecoming parade and throwing candy at the crowd? Is that different from an event held in someone's back yard? By throwing a fit I mean this woman heard from other parents that he birthday pictures were up, and called half a dozen other parents to see what they thought about it (none had obejections) and complained to the offender's friends before confronting the offender. So instead of a simple, "I am not comfortable with my ki's pictures being online," to the host child's paents she's got half the PTA chattering about it and laying bets on who is going to "back down."
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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 10:54am
merella wrote:

I'm sure the mom didn't mean any harm by it, but I understand the other mom's concerns about the pictures being on FB w/o her consent.

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 10:58am

As a rule, I have


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