family centered lifestyles
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|Wed, 07-16-2003 - 6:54pm|
It has dawned on me, while reading through these posts, that I seem to be one of those people who lead a more family-centered lifestyle. If I want to get together with friends, we do so as a family. We typically don't keep friends if we cannot stand their spouse, or we only see those friends occasionally. DH has one friend whose wife neither of us can stand, so he typically sees this friend during the day, while she is at work and our kids are at school. Parties and celebrations (weddings, showers, etc) are all family events. For instance, next month, when DH gets out of the military, I'm throwing him a "retirement" party. It will be a totally family-centered thing, with entire families invited, not just adults. For DS's birthday later this month, we will have a family-centered party, with entire families invited, not just his friends.
Sure, I get out and about with out the kids, and so does my DH, but it is typically at a time that is not generally "family time". During the school year, my girlfriend and I scrapbook once a week, while the kids are at school. We take a scrapbook class one evening a week, while our husbands hang out at one house or the other with our kids. DH goes to the races with his dad and uncles and brother 3-5 times a year. He will eventually take our kids, but feels it is too loud for them yet. We go out to dinner occasionally, just the two of us, but more regularly, we go to lunch together, while the kids are at school.
Personally, I have no desire to attend an "adult" party like others have described here. I never have had such desire. We have attended them while I was working, or for the miltiary with my DH, and I have gone out of obligation, but I MUCH prefered family-style parties thrown at July 4th or Christmas that our places of employment held; including the kids.
It really surprises me that there seem to be so many people here who view this as odd. So....opinions? thoughts? experiences?