Fathers have a choice
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| Tue, 07-25-2006 - 1:45pm |
I was flipping through the channels this morning when I came across one of those baby shows. I think it was called Bringing home Baby or something like that. Anyway, the part that caught my attention was where they were changing the baby (actually she was doing the changing. He was just standing and watching) She then made the comment that he "doesn't do diapers". She then goes on to say her dad didn't either and try to come up with some reasons why some dad's don't do it and how they can't handle it, blah, blah, blah. The new dad then piped in that he couldn't stand the smell and he just doesn't do them. She then says...some dads do and some dads don't.
So I sat there and thought.....Why does dad get a *choice* in it at all? Why do they get to *opt out* of the diaper changing duties? What if the mom decided she couldn't stand the smell as well? Would the child then stay in a dirty diaper for the next two years until he is potty trained or until one of them broke own and changed the poor child? Why would a mom think that changing a diaper was an opional assignment for the dad?
Anyway....it's not really sah/woh. But I thought it a good debate topic.....Why do dads get the choice to *opt out* of parenting duties? And why would moms let them do it?

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Do you really want me to cut and paste all that again? It is very time consuming. I have posted it more times than I can count where you are incorrect. You weren't clear on what I said even though what I said was clear. Either you didn't read the entire post about my cleaning or you forgot what I said. You said you get then go on to say ***I have read your posts completely, you answered that yes you do really do everything and don't ask for help*** When you say that it leads me to believe you don't get it, because I didn't say that. Then you proceed to tell me that I read too much into clear and concise words yet you are confused when I say that
***Yes I do. The only thing I don't do is schedule my DH things. i.e. car repairs, doctor appt. He does do the dishes most of the time and he takes out the trash everyday. Other than that I do it. My children are 4 and 7. I don't clean their rooms. I vacuum them and dust but they clean up their things. I also change their sheets.***
I think that is pretty clear and concise.
How will exposing my children to those atrocities help the children who are having bombs dropped on them?
And you'd better believe that I have a problem with exposing children in other countries to these atrocities. Your *we* doesn't include me.
I have said I get it.
PumpkinAngel
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