Fathers have a choice

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Fathers have a choice
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Tue, 07-25-2006 - 1:45pm

I was flipping through the channels this morning when I came across one of those baby shows. I think it was called Bringing home Baby or something like that. Anyway, the part that caught my attention was where they were changing the baby (actually she was doing the changing. He was just standing and watching) She then made the comment that he "doesn't do diapers". She then goes on to say her dad didn't either and try to come up with some reasons why some dad's don't do it and how they can't handle it, blah, blah, blah. The new dad then piped in that he couldn't stand the smell and he just doesn't do them. She then says...some dads do and some dads don't.

So I sat there and thought.....Why does dad get a *choice* in it at all? Why do they get to *opt out* of the diaper changing duties? What if the mom decided she couldn't stand the smell as well? Would the child then stay in a dirty diaper for the next two years until he is potty trained or until one of them broke own and changed the poor child? Why would a mom think that changing a diaper was an opional assignment for the dad?

Anyway....it's not really sah/woh. But I thought it a good debate topic.....Why do dads get the choice to *opt out* of parenting duties? And why would moms let them do it?

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 8:26pm
How do you know all of this inside information? DO you have any proof of these accusations?
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 8:27pm
You might want to check the voting record on these wars. It wasn't just republicans. Go have a look.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 8:30pm
The Saudis are becoming less and less important to the US. The Saudi's are running out of oil quickly. No matter how much we want to deny it. We need oil for this country to run. Without it...we all suffer.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 8:33pm

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SO sorry for the typo. Iraqi's, and Afghani's. Does that make it better for you?

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Because in the context of our discussion the Middle East was being referred to as Iraqi's and Afghani's..not Egyptians. I didn't think it would be that hard to follow along. My bad. I still haven't gotten an answer, nor how one knows one is a Muslim.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 8:34pm
I understood what you said. I just find it odd that someone would request that they could rearrange their flight because a Muslim is flying. How would they know? Did they have on a badge that said MUSLIM?
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Registered: 04-09-2003
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 8:36pm

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Didn't we already go over this.

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Incorrect. I supported us going over to Afghanistan. The Taliban was not doing anything about BinLaden. I completely was behind us going over there. Instead, like another earlier poster responed, we then turned all of our military into Iraq, instead of staying focused on finishing the job in Afghanistan, to defeat BinLaden.

<< As for Iraq yes I did believe that WMD were in Iraq. Just like the majority of the senate as well as the current administration. You aren't buying into the baloney that Bush cherry picked the evidence are you?>>

You bet!

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North Korea is a threat. Iran is a threat. Syria is a threat. Some will even say that China is our biggest threat. So according to you, any country that is deemed a threat we should invade? How do you invade all of these countries?

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Julia

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 8:44pm

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Yes we did. No solution.

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Side note. We are still in Afghanistan. We haven't left.

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You bet what? Elaborate please.

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We are in talks with all these countries. N Korea wants war with us about as much as we want war with them. I support invading Iran, so does most of the world.

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Thu, 08-03-2006 - 8:47pm
I never heard that one, either. Probably more spin from the Left.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 8:52pm
I still havent gotten any response on that one. The accusations fly never any proof.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 8:55pm

Um....I never once said her choice was not valid. I simply do not agree with atheism. I am not saying someone else could not choose to be one.

I think you misunderstood the intent behind my post. I was trying to say that even if someone is Atheist, does not mean they are not a "real" American. You don't have to agree with everyone's lifestyle, religious, or whatever, choices. You can still respect the person even if you don't agree.




Edited 8/3/2006 8:59 pm ET by mom2danjam

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