Fathers have a choice

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Fathers have a choice
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Tue, 07-25-2006 - 1:45pm

I was flipping through the channels this morning when I came across one of those baby shows. I think it was called Bringing home Baby or something like that. Anyway, the part that caught my attention was where they were changing the baby (actually she was doing the changing. He was just standing and watching) She then made the comment that he "doesn't do diapers". She then goes on to say her dad didn't either and try to come up with some reasons why some dad's don't do it and how they can't handle it, blah, blah, blah. The new dad then piped in that he couldn't stand the smell and he just doesn't do them. She then says...some dads do and some dads don't.

So I sat there and thought.....Why does dad get a *choice* in it at all? Why do they get to *opt out* of the diaper changing duties? What if the mom decided she couldn't stand the smell as well? Would the child then stay in a dirty diaper for the next two years until he is potty trained or until one of them broke own and changed the poor child? Why would a mom think that changing a diaper was an opional assignment for the dad?

Anyway....it's not really sah/woh. But I thought it a good debate topic.....Why do dads get the choice to *opt out* of parenting duties? And why would moms let them do it?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 10:47am

Perhaps you should answer her question and define what you are referring to when you state the middle east?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 10:48am

I have, in my middle size midwestern city.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 10:53am

Wow.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 10:53am
this is one thing that always intrigues me. we see people who want to harm or invade us as terrorists - are we seen as terrorists by say people in iraq
Jennie
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 10:56am
another question that always interests me. why is it okay for us to have nukes but not others. because i would lay money that there are alot of people in this world who view bush as a religious nutcase who is totally unstable.
Jennie
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Registered: 04-09-2003
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 11:10am

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I don't understand that line of thinking either.

Julia

Julia

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 11:12am
So it is just an opinion?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 11:12am

Double standards always interest me.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 11:14am
Please post 1 lie, and the proof to back up that lie. When you can I will be happy to read it.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 11:15am
I dont make assumptions about anyone. Just not a good way of learning anything. Just fuels bad feelings too many times.

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