Fewer hours vs. Divided attention

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Fewer hours vs. Divided attention
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Sun, 11-30-2008 - 9:35am

In another thread, two separate points were made by separate people. One person mentioned (I'm totally paraphrasing here) that it doesn't seem like a few hours a day before and after work would be enough time devoted to spending with your child. Another person mentioned (paraphrasing again) that having lots of children would also prevent the mother from devoting more than a few hours per day per child, if not even less than the working mom.

At first I was thinking that, well, the mother of lots of kids who is with them all the time is *simultaneously* spending time with each of the children. But then again, at what point do we distinguish between "time devoted to child" and "time spent in presence of child"? Assuming that both are caring, responsive mothers, do you feel that someone who SAH with tons of children is likely to be devoting more, equal, or less time to each child than someone who works full-time and has one child?

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Tue, 12-02-2008 - 10:05am

>Honestly, I think the key to raising happy children is based on how much you actually like them. I'm completely serious. I assume that all parents love their children, but it's equally important to like them and find them interesting as people.<

I agree. Liking one's children makes raising them a lot easier, ime.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 12:03pm

Dh and I were just talking about this the other day.

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Ducky

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Tue, 12-02-2008 - 12:17pm
My use of the phrase "tons of kids" was drawn from the blurb at the top of the Tons of Kids messageboard that says "Do you have a handful at home - more than four?". So I figured that 6 children would qualify for using the phrase. I do acknowledge that "tons" is ultimately a very subjective term, though.
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Tue, 12-02-2008 - 2:26pm

What an awesome way to remember your parents and childhood. I hope my kids will feel the same way about me!


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Tue, 12-02-2008 - 2:29pm

Hey no problem. It's funny how I don't see us as a particuarily large family but when I see other big families I do a head count on them and

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Tue, 12-02-2008 - 3:42pm
when i'm having an especially long or tough day,i think of how my mom did it.

 

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