~Forgive a Cheating Spouse??~

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~Forgive a Cheating Spouse??~
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 7:58pm

Would you or could you possibly forgive a cheating spouse? Why or why not??

Is there hope after infidelity?

Do you think SAHM's are more likely to forgive a cheating husband then WOHM's due to financial dependence/independence?

~Jenn

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 5:31pm
Me either, but since I haven't BTDT, who knows?
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 5:33pm

I'm certain Stacy has known since conception.

Virgo
 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 5:34pm

In my case, I got pregnant first. Then, my rigid, traditional moral stance decided I should be married to the man. Then, the said man got brain cancer, I fell in love and there you have it.


I will probably never trust enough again to ever get married again. I have been on one date since DH died and am not actively seeking to date. Perhaps my therapy will help but I never even dated before Devin. He is the longest relationship I have ever had. I pretty much never allowed myself to get close to a man ever.


The thought of getting married again or dating literally fills me with fear. I don't know if I could do

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

      &nbs

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 5:35pm
For me. . .I took the plunge because I love him, marriage felt right, I was pregnant (impacted timing of said marriage, but not the decision to marry him), and he has a GREAT a$$.

Virgo

Virgo
 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 5:37pm

I dont know what i would do without my family support. even my cousins are *wonderful* to me. i have about ten cousins who i hear from constantly cheering me on, and helping to keep my chin up on a daily basis. and my stbxh didnt cheat on me, which sometimes i think is worse. i tried hard to be a good wife, and nothing ever seemed good enough. stbxh comes from an extremely critical family and i saw this when i was 16yo, however, in my 16yo mind, i thought he would mature, and not be so critical as he got older, and lived away from his family. talk about live and learn!!

i cant imagine not having my family unit behind me. every-single-one of them is supportive. I am a very lucky person.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 5:38pm

roflmao


for me it was allen's lips and kisses ... but his a$$ isn't bad either.



Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 5:42pm

How old is he? where does he live? what does he do?

oh, im sorry. lost my head there for a minute. plz excuse me. ROFLMAO!!!

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 5:52pm

Uh, SM wasn't talking about you. Remember. Her views on cheating within HER OWN relationship have nothing to do with you, your children, or bazillions of your ex inlaws. Why can't you get that?

Of course adultery *can* have victims. I said myself above that I'd either kill or be killed by it. Again, what on earth does that have to do with SM's marriage?

It. Is. Not. About. You.

Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:02pm

I haven't once said she is talking about me. And you weren't talking about her marriage either. You said no one else would be hurt by adultery. I disagree. And I have instances to prove that. Is there always others hurt? Nope. But there can be others hurt. Happens everyday.


Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:02pm
Adultery in a marriage where neither party cares about adultery hurts no one. Except, apparently, Hollie.
Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.

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