~Forgive a Cheating Spouse??~

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Registered: 02-17-2005
~Forgive a Cheating Spouse??~
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 7:58pm

Would you or could you possibly forgive a cheating spouse? Why or why not??

Is there hope after infidelity?

Do you think SAHM's are more likely to forgive a cheating husband then WOHM's due to financial dependence/independence?

~Jenn

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:05pm
ROF I lost my head over this guy when we were both in elementary school. Such a rotten thing to have to keep a secret, my own dear cousin. As it stands now, his looks are just about all he has going for him, hate to say...
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:06pm

Well, apparently Sabina does care, from her post below. But I don't particularly care whether Sabina cares or not that Hollie cares whether Sabina and her DH care about cheating. LOL.

My point is that none of us should care what other people do in their bedrooms, as long as nobody gets hurt. (If the actual folks involved don't care about the adultery, then obviously no one is getting hurt.) And since this happens to be a debate board, I feel like debating the point.

I would imagine that Sabina wishes that I stop using her life and marriage as an example to prove my point. So I think I will stick with Candace Bergen from here on out.

Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:08pm
Even kids get it that we all make mistakes. *Especially* kids. It must take a lot of guts to stay a little bit neutral after a divorce when you really think the guy's a jerk.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:09pm
Precisely. If the married couple takes adultery cavalierly enough, their parents and the kids have no reason to know and no reason to be hurt. (So "not bullcrap.")
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:11pm
You are truly a person of tremendous guts, I mean it in all sincerity. Btw, what does adoption have to do with a rigid, moralistic stance? I ask because adoption is another one of my favorite topics...
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:12pm
So, your carnal instincts got the better of you. You're a human being. If it didn't happen that way sometimes, none of us would be here.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:13pm
It's not unreasonable to talk to family about it. However, pain of one's parents, etc. (while understandable) is not really fairly attributable to the cheater just because of the cheating, when the family wouldn't have found out about it had the couple handled who they told differently.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:14pm
It most definitely is a very thorny issue. How do you communicate to them that it's okay for them to love him even if you don't? Is that even possible?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:18pm
say no more. im divorcing one who only has looks going for him!! LOL.
know any UGLY guys????? LOL.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:20pm
LOL I've never been compared with Candice Bergen. I have to try that at home. "DH, what would Candice want you to do?" LOL...

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