~Forgive a Cheating Spouse??~

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~Forgive a Cheating Spouse??~
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 7:58pm

Would you or could you possibly forgive a cheating spouse? Why or why not??

Is there hope after infidelity?

Do you think SAHM's are more likely to forgive a cheating husband then WOHM's due to financial dependence/independence?

~Jenn

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:25pm
I will forgive your ignorance and naivete. It was before your time.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:26pm
Good thing we snagged them before they passed their shelf life. Mr. Dear Cousin doesn't really look just like the young Donald Sutherland any more. Kind of but not really.
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:28pm
Yup. . .and I'm proud to say that 15 years later he still gives me goosebumps and shivers.

Virgo

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:30pm
Thank you. But I don't think anyone will forgive me for being cavalier. Still kind of a cool thing to be.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:32pm

<<Adultery in a marriage where neither party cares about adultery hurts no one.>>


Wrong. It might not. But it might hurt their kids and other members of their family. And what about the spouse of the other lover? Did she agree that she doesn't care too?


And it's quite a stretch to say that adultery in SM's marriage hurt me. Not once did I imply that. That would be ludicrous.



Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:33pm
That means you're in it for the long haul. Whoooohooooo!!!!
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:33pm

Yes, I must admit, now I will likely always picture you with knee breeches, a swagger, and a cap with a long feathered plume.

I can't see why you should need forgiveness for having your own opinion about your own personal business. But maybe that's just me.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:35pm
Sort of like the huge poster of Jonny Depp as Captain Jack Sparrow that DD has on her wall. With lots and lots of eye makeup and a serious attitude problem LOL.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:36pm

Because their relationship isn't about ME, its about THEM.


but specifically? we talk alot about him. When they get a good grade, I tell them he would be proud (and makre sure they tell him). When I tuck them in at night I often say "I love you. And your daddy loves you too, even though he didn't get to tell you tonight." Things like that.


He IS their father and is a good one and always will be. THat's a wonderful thing for them. To promote that is beneficial for them and thus, beneficial for me.



Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:37pm
No, looks aren't everything. Much better to love 'em and leave 'em when that's all they have going.

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