~Forgive a Cheating Spouse??~

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Registered: 02-17-2005
~Forgive a Cheating Spouse??~
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 7:58pm

Would you or could you possibly forgive a cheating spouse? Why or why not??

Is there hope after infidelity?

Do you think SAHM's are more likely to forgive a cheating husband then WOHM's due to financial dependence/independence?

~Jenn

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 6:35am
LOL, "enabling"! You must have gone to the WalMart School of Social Work. Same one where they teach "Get a divorce pronto, then think it over, then get remarried"...Not to mention choice language on a public debate board... LOLOL...
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 6:38am
And just because your posts don't earn you a standing ovation doesn't mean you get desperate and cut loose with whatever language pops into your head. Not if you hope to preserve any credibility at all.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 9:03am

You have been asked this mutiple times and have not answered. To forsake all others is only one of the vows taken. Do you put a higher priority on that vow over the rest (love, honor and cherish as examples) or do you feel the same about any of the vows being broken, once broken the marrige is over?

Adultry is not ok, but if the person who committed it truely believes that what they did was wrong and not that being caught was the problem then it is something that can be worked though. Just like breaking the other vows is not ok but something that can be worked through. What makes it possible to work through is the person not wanting to repeat their trangression.

I don't put a higher priority on that vow in fact just the opposite, if everyone were following the other vows the infidelity would never be an issue. You do not cheat on someone that you love, honor and cherish so I see them as more important.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 10:17am

I have the fancy service and searched for it too. Was the thread pulled?


I have a part time book keeping job at night. It is from 5-9:30 or so. No phones, no customers. No kids, no mess, no bedtime. Heaven.

"Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction."


Advice on greeting your DH from Housekeeping Monthly (1955)









"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 10:23am

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 10:25am

What did your husband do to show you he was trustworthy in the beginning of your relationship?

Virgo
 
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 10:53am
I would not have thought there was any place left in the USA so conservative. As if you didn't have enough on your plate, you also have antediluvian attitudes to deal with. I thought all that stuff went out with Archie Bunker (you're too young to know who he was, but he was the bigoted dad in an old TV show called "All in the Family").
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 10:55am

I'm not that young. I know who Archie Bunker is.


I was only 7 when Epcot was built, though :)

"Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction."


Advice on greeting your DH from Housekeeping Monthly (1955)









"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

      &nbs

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 11:05am
I don't know if it was pulled. Certainly could have been. Can't be many threads prominently featuring "xenophobia" and "milkshake" in the archives!
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 11:06am
Ah, those were the days, when I would have thought so too. I really would have preferred not to find out otherwise the hard way.

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