~Forgive a Cheating Spouse??~

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~Forgive a Cheating Spouse??~
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 7:58pm

Would you or could you possibly forgive a cheating spouse? Why or why not??

Is there hope after infidelity?

Do you think SAHM's are more likely to forgive a cheating husband then WOHM's due to financial dependence/independence?

~Jenn

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 1:23pm

Was what called for. I simply said that just because stuff happens you don't have to spread your legs and you don't."

The phrase "spread your legs" has very ugly connetations. And obviously you intended that. That approach is about as mature as writing nasty things about people on bathroom walls, IMO. It just reminds me so much of high school antics and I would expect more from adults on a debate board I guess.

" I've had lots of stuff happen but stuff happening didn't result in my having an affair. If stuff happening is reason for affiars, how come we don't all have them? We all have stuff happen."

We all react differently. Our circumstances are different. People make mistakes and people do bad and stupid things. It doesnt necesarily make them bad stupid people.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 2:22pm

I dont think she has any real intention of debating. I think she just likes to hear herself. There is no rebuttal in her posts, just (as you said) repetition of the same opinion over and over. And no acknowledgement or answers given to any questions asked.


Hmm. This IS starting to sound like Cyndi.....I'm assuming she and her dh must have reconciled and its now okay that he smokes around their dd's......;o)


Dj

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Fri, 06-03-2005 - 2:24pm
Why are you assuming that?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 2:30pm

Well I suppose she could be talking about a hypothetical husband, but it sounds like they are still together. If this really is her, that is.


Or maybe they reconciled and he quit smoking and/or decided to smoke outside. But who knows.


Dj

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Fri, 06-03-2005 - 3:12pm
Don't know - I haven't read every post and certainly not with an eye toward seeing if this is CLW, but of the posts mentioning her husband, I haven't seen any which indicate that said husband is a Dear Husband.
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Fri, 06-03-2005 - 3:30pm

Actually I had only seen some vague similarities until you intially mentioned it-I kept thinking it must be a coincidence.But you're right-she never does call him *dear* husband.


Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Fri, 06-03-2005 - 3:34pm
So what did I miss (because she edited it out) about the person who cheated on her? If I recall, wasn't this CLW's second marriage, the first one having ended because he cheated on her?
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Fri, 06-03-2005 - 3:52pm

If I recall correctly, CLW married very young (19 or so).

Virgo
 
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Fri, 06-03-2005 - 4:13pm

Oh, no, I didn't mean that CLW was in a second marriage when she was cheated on. I meant that her CURRENT marriage is her second, is it not?

First marriage very young ending due to infidelity. . .near-marriage ending due to infidelity. . .not a very big detail to change. . . .

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Registered: 11-25-2004
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 4:26pm

LOL, blunt and to the point. However, I didn't even use a swear word. There are MANY quite vulgar ways I could have chosen to say that. I chose to be blunt to make a point. Why you find this so offensive is beyond me. I've heard MUCH MUCH worse, lol.

The point is as I said that one does not have to hike her skirt, spread her legs, roll in the hay, however you want to say it just because stuff happens in life. Stuff happens is not justification for an affair any way you slice it.

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