~Forgive a Cheating Spouse??~
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~Forgive a Cheating Spouse??~
| Fri, 05-27-2005 - 7:58pm |
Would you or could you possibly forgive a cheating spouse? Why or why not??
Is there hope after infidelity?
Do you think SAHM's are more likely to forgive a cheating husband then WOHM's due to financial dependence/independence?
~Jenn

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Why is it anyone who doesn't don rose colored glasses is negative? There is a lot of ground between looking at everything through rose colored glasses and being a pessimist. I'm a realist. I've watched people for many years to get to the point I am now and I've seen, over and over, that when someone does something that is untrustworthy, chances are you can't trust them.
There is no way I'd want my daughters to stay in a relationship with a man who cheated on them. As I've said, you need time to cry and heal and he need time to change and prove he's changed. Trying to rebuild a marriage out of the ashes of the one that was destroyed while doing all of that is a lot to take on. One step at a time and you need to start with taking cre of yourself and your kids.
I do not take infidelity lightly because it isn't something to be taken lightly. It's not something that just happens. It is not trivial. There is something very wrong if a spouse will cheat. It shows disrespect for their spouse and your marriage vows.
Can you tell me why I should stay with someone who has shown disrespect to me and can't be trusted to abide by a vow he took?
All I can say is actually a repetition of your own words, "There is a lot of ground between looking at everything through rose colored glasses and being a pessimist."
While you may see yourself as a "realist", you are closer to the pessimist end of the spectrum than you realize.
Your vulgar description of sex is jaundiced. Did you ever read Othello? In it, Iago talks about sex as "making the best with two backs," a similarly ugly, vulgar perspective on sexuality. The reason Shakespeare has him say this, quite early on in the play, was to make it clear that this character is no lover of humanity.
It's what poker players would call a "tell."
FWIW, I know of only one couple who stayed together and made it work.
Mondo
I truly believe in the ability of people to overcome, to change, to become better.
Mondo
Me too. . .me too.
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