Frustrated Dad

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Registered: 09-09-2009
Frustrated Dad
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Wed, 09-09-2009 - 3:28am
I really need some opinions on my situation. I am a 30 year old dad with 3 children. I work 10-12 hrs a day 5 days a week and every other Saturday. I am pretty much a homebody, the only time I really go out is on Sundays during football season to watch the games. I do what i need to in order to support my wife and kids. But I am at wits end with my wife and need some help.
My wifes day is as follows. She wakes up any where from 10am - noon (which means 2 of our children (11 and 7) wake up feed themselves and walk to school) at which point she will got downstairs to the kitchen to light a cigarette and call her sister or best friend. During the 1/2hr to an hour that she is on the phone she will make (for herself)and drink about 3 cups of coffee. At around noon when the baby wakes up (11 months) she'll feed him change his diaper and set him on the floor and mostly ignore him as she calls her mother. Usually around 12:30 she'll head out to do errands leaving me with the baby until 1:30 when she'll get home so I can rush out to work where I'm 20 minutes away from and need to be in by 2.
Heres the thing i have no problem being the sole financial gainer in the house hold but I expect certain things. I guess thats the reason for this post to find out if my expectation are to lofty. I expect her to get up in the morning with the children make them breakfast help them pick out cloths make sure they have their homework and send them off to school( I would even help in the morning but i got sick of waking up in the morning while shes still sleeping when i was the one at work last night). I would like breakfast every once in a while made when i wake up i don't expect it but it would be nice. I would like the baby up before 11am I just don't think he should be sleeping that long. i expect laundry the be cleaned, folded and put away! The laundry in our house gets washed and dried them it usually ends up on the dining room table for half the day then it makes its way over to the living room where its folded and left on the couch for a day or two (is it to much to ask to have it put away). I expect the house clean! Cleaning the kitchen for her consist of of doing the dishes and mopping the floor! Cabinets, frig, counters, stove maybe once a month. Cleaning the dinning room consist of her wiping the table and vacuuming one area of the carpet. Bathroom, living room are cleaned in the same manner and the children's room and bedroom upstairs can go months without cleaning! I expect lunch made before i got to work! No breakfast and lunch not even a packed lunch/diner!I expect a home cooked diner for my children! Not pizza, macaroni or canned spaghetti!!! Is this to much to ask? i expect diner when I get home, real food not something she sends me on yoville or farmtown, which she's on until 2am!! DO I EXPECT TO MUCH? I thought these where to things a stay at home mom did? Are my expectations to old school? I need answers I feel like I'm being taken advantage of and I don't know how much longer I can last.

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In reply to: daddy_gil
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 2:02pm
LMBO!
I love failblog!

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Registered: 02-24-2010
In reply to: daddy_gil
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 7:26pm
That would be a Stay at Home Parent.

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Registered: 10-22-2009
In reply to: daddy_gil
Sun, 03-21-2010 - 11:53pm

n/t

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Registered: 02-04-2009
In reply to: daddy_gil
Sun, 03-21-2010 - 9:46pm
Good grief; if you're going to spam the board incessantly, at least have the good manners to learn html.

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Registered: 02-24-2009
In reply to: daddy_gil
Sun, 03-21-2010 - 2:28pm
Thanks! Glad someone read what I wrote.

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In reply to: daddy_gil
Sat, 03-20-2010 - 5:54pm
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Registered: 10-22-2009
In reply to: daddy_gil
Sat, 03-20-2010 - 12:32pm
No,
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Registered: 02-04-2009
In reply to: daddy_gil
Fri, 03-19-2010 - 11:49pm

SPED really isn't such a bad thing now, is it.

Did rollmops ever say it was?

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Registered: 10-22-2009
In reply to: daddy_gil
Fri, 03-19-2010 - 5:34pm

this is just my views... street smarts and common sense goes hand and hand.




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Registered: 02-24-2009
In reply to: daddy_gil
Fri, 03-19-2010 - 5:28pm
Did anyone say they were the same? Both, however, are often thought to be lacking in the highly intelligent (although this is not really so).

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I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.

James A. Baldwin

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