Frustrated Dad

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Registered: 09-09-2009
Frustrated Dad
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Wed, 09-09-2009 - 3:28am
I really need some opinions on my situation. I am a 30 year old dad with 3 children. I work 10-12 hrs a day 5 days a week and every other Saturday. I am pretty much a homebody, the only time I really go out is on Sundays during football season to watch the games. I do what i need to in order to support my wife and kids. But I am at wits end with my wife and need some help.
My wifes day is as follows. She wakes up any where from 10am - noon (which means 2 of our children (11 and 7) wake up feed themselves and walk to school) at which point she will got downstairs to the kitchen to light a cigarette and call her sister or best friend. During the 1/2hr to an hour that she is on the phone she will make (for herself)and drink about 3 cups of coffee. At around noon when the baby wakes up (11 months) she'll feed him change his diaper and set him on the floor and mostly ignore him as she calls her mother. Usually around 12:30 she'll head out to do errands leaving me with the baby until 1:30 when she'll get home so I can rush out to work where I'm 20 minutes away from and need to be in by 2.
Heres the thing i have no problem being the sole financial gainer in the house hold but I expect certain things. I guess thats the reason for this post to find out if my expectation are to lofty. I expect her to get up in the morning with the children make them breakfast help them pick out cloths make sure they have their homework and send them off to school( I would even help in the morning but i got sick of waking up in the morning while shes still sleeping when i was the one at work last night). I would like breakfast every once in a while made when i wake up i don't expect it but it would be nice. I would like the baby up before 11am I just don't think he should be sleeping that long. i expect laundry the be cleaned, folded and put away! The laundry in our house gets washed and dried them it usually ends up on the dining room table for half the day then it makes its way over to the living room where its folded and left on the couch for a day or two (is it to much to ask to have it put away). I expect the house clean! Cleaning the kitchen for her consist of of doing the dishes and mopping the floor! Cabinets, frig, counters, stove maybe once a month. Cleaning the dinning room consist of her wiping the table and vacuuming one area of the carpet. Bathroom, living room are cleaned in the same manner and the children's room and bedroom upstairs can go months without cleaning! I expect lunch made before i got to work! No breakfast and lunch not even a packed lunch/diner!I expect a home cooked diner for my children! Not pizza, macaroni or canned spaghetti!!! Is this to much to ask? i expect diner when I get home, real food not something she sends me on yoville or farmtown, which she's on until 2am!! DO I EXPECT TO MUCH? I thought these where to things a stay at home mom did? Are my expectations to old school? I need answers I feel like I'm being taken advantage of and I don't know how much longer I can last.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: daddy_gil
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 5:15pm
Yes.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: daddy_gil
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 5:17pm
Good point.
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Registered: 10-22-2009
In reply to: daddy_gil
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 6:40pm

Exactly!


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Registered: 10-22-2009
In reply to: daddy_gil
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 7:01pm

why i see it different is b/c


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Registered: 10-22-2009
In reply to: daddy_gil
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 7:05pm
Actually and i brought this up earlier in this monster thread,
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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: daddy_gil
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 7:06pm
the only time i see candy wrappers in my kids' rooms are around holidays, halloween and easter, i've always allowed them their bags/baskets in their rooms tehn.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: daddy_gil
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 7:15pm

i don't know if they make body spray for boys but my girls love spraying that on themselves and i love the smell, too, LOL.

 

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Registered: 03-08-2010
In reply to: daddy_gil
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 8:29pm

I figure it won't hurt to try it.


She is fine living in a pig sty. I am not fine having her life in a pig sty and living like that in my home.

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Registered: 03-08-2010
In reply to: daddy_gil
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 8:33pm
Because it could be "hidden".
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Registered: 03-08-2010
In reply to: daddy_gil
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 8:37pm
My children are not allowed to eat in their room. That doesn't mean my dd doesn't sneak things in her room. I am basically on top of her now everytime she goes in the pantry or fridge. It is sad but it has to be done.

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