Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Sun, 02-15-2004 - 6:04pm
Because that is what our arrangements are. She will also help with the kids when our son starts racing this summer.
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Sun, 02-15-2004 - 7:05pm
You know "atypical" means it's "not typical" - right?
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Sun, 02-15-2004 - 7:05pm
I'm talking roughly $1,300 per month, plus tax and bonus.

But why would the "debate" be any different if we were talking about $12-15 per hour vs. $8? Why should that matter? DC is a more expensive place to live than the area of Northern CA that I live in. Does that enter into it too from your perspective? I mean really, who cares how much I, or anyone else, pays their nanny? You seem a bit obsessed with it...despite claiming a few posts back that you don't care.

Interesting.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-15-2004 - 9:49pm
So what is your opinion of SAHP's with children in school full time?

My kids will both be in school full time next year (My son is currently in half day kindie), and I do not have any plans to return to work at that time.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-15-2004 - 9:57pm
And why would you presume that would be what the mom would say? How about "Honey, you have a great day while mommy does her errands and appointments! I'll see you after lunch!"

Could you have possibly framed the statement in a more negative or ridiculous way? My kids like to know what I do during the day and I usually tell them - however, if I did do something that they would have liked to have done as well (like go garage saling or other "fun" activity), I downplay it - they don't need their noses rubbed in it.

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Sun, 02-15-2004 - 10:08pm
Well, per this whole thread, if you had a full-time nanny with kids in school full time, I wouldn't understand why. A SAHM with kids in school full time hopefully has plenty of time for both her AND the kids. I sounds like a great situation, although I don't think we'll be able to do that financially. I'll probably work school hours.
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Sun, 02-15-2004 - 11:07pm
Uh yeah I do.
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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 4:38am
"Filthy rich." Isn't that a perjorative term for people who have wealth? Filth. That means dirt. One spits it when one says it. People with money are dirty, to be suspected. When said aloud, it connontes one is jealous of another's wealth and/or success.

Surely one could call you "filthy rich." In my neck of the woods, $36K a year is a working person's hard-earned wage.

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 9:18am
I would submit that at least young children don't particularly care whether their parents are doing something "important" with their time away from them. What matters to them is whether they're used to being away from them for that amount of time or not. I don't think it matters a hill of beans to my son (almost 6) when I am away from him what the relative "importance" is of my grocery shopping or getting a haircut or of whatever it is that I am doing - just that he knows I am coming back and that he himself is having a good time in my absence. He doesn't think a thing of his father being away for the entire day, but I'm quite certain that's because he's completely used to it, not because he's thinking about how important it is to his survival hat he's bringing home a paycheck. I am, however, quite sure that if people made it clear to a young child that they pitied him for being so unimportant to his parent(s) that he was being left with a nanny, he would be quite capable of feeling quite sorry for himself too.
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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 9:48am
What about for the mother who has MS? Or the family where one child is severly disabled and needs round the clock care, but there are other children too? Or the family that has a grandparent suffering from cancer and the parent is trying to care for them?

I can think of lots of reasons why it isn't a luxury.

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