Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 12:21pm
Maybe I was wrong to pick "5" as the age, but at some point, the kid will understand the difference between mom going to work to help to feed the family or going out to get a facial.

My nanny's 5 year old dd asked her mom why she can't stay at home with her. My nanny explained to her that she needs to work to pay for the house (they had just moved from their 1 br apt to a house) and asked whether she'd like her to stay at home with her and be in the apartment. Her dd chose her mom going to work. If she had told her that she needs to go out so that she can have fun (for herself), I don't think her dd would have been happy.
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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 12:23pm
See my post to IIMA (#422). It may have been a mistake to use "5" as the age in my example.
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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 12:26pm
So you're advocating lying to your children?
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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 12:32pm
My mother was able to WOHM with a family of 10 for part of our upbringing WITHOUT the aid of a housekeeper.

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Bridget & Ethan (5)

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 12:50pm

I was fortunate enough to have excellent daycare and friends while Devin was sick. I was able to make sure they were cared for while we were in the hospital or for the tons of doctor visits and other appointments. Part of that care was because I was working. I truly don't have any clue how I would have done it if I was a SAHM. I would have because I would have had to but it would have been much more difficult.


I have a friend right now that just had her fourth child. Her husband has taken a job that requires four months of training in another part of the country. Last week, the

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 1:06pm
Just for another point of reference, I live in Minneapolis and until last August, we paid our nanny $17.00 an hour

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Bridget & Ethan (5)

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 1:24pm
What if you are leaving your children for 40 hours a week to work so that you are able to pursue those "frivolous niceties?" you referred to?

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Bridget & Ethan (5)

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 1:25pm
I first became a SAHM because DH and I were both in the military and being dual military adds extra stresses on a family that we did not want to have to deal with.

I remained a SAHM until my youngest was in school full time because I did not want to work all day at work and then all evening/weekend at home.

Because being a military family I did not want to have to go through a new job search search every 2-3 years when we moved.

I also did not want to have to go through having to find a new daycare provider every couple of years when we moved.

Because the little that I would have brought home after paying for childcare/other work expences would have basially that I would have been working to pay for work.

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 1:28pm
im with you..........the biggest advantage to our family to having me be a sahm is that my dh and i have more time together as a couple - all the things we had to do late at night after the kids were in bed are now done before he gets home, so once the kids are in bed it is just the two of us, with nothing to do, except what we choose :).

Jennie

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 1:32pm
Well, that's alott more than anyone I know pays for a nanny, its also much more than through the au pair service we checked out. Perhaps child care workers make much less in Northern CA than other parts of the country. I don't know. I just know that my friends and I all have nannies and the going rate is betwee $7-10 per hour. We pay our $8, plus 2 weeks paid vacation and a $500 bonus.

Odd though that even in Min. where the cost of living is much lower than here in NCAL, you'd be paying $17 an hour!

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